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    Default Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    Hi guys, so I recently broke nc after NC for almost 2mths. In that 2 months there were instances where she liked my fb status/pics etc as if to encourage me to break nc but I didn't. But a week back I started to fire her a text saying how a certain situation reminded me of her (heard these "good memories" texts works well) and yeah her reply was pretty positive so I tried to engaged her further by resuming texts with one another. (I wanted to call her bt I decided against it cause there would be an air of awkwardness and I decided to texts instead)

    Then she started to play 'games' w me (or so I thought) by replying sometimes within mins, sometimes hours. I did the same as well, and here's where the current situation is at.

    Followin my last text 2 days ago, she finally replied today and ACTUALLY tried to explain that she just checked her msgs blah blah. Now, I do want this chick back and I was thinking of a few options,
    1. Play it cool w her explanation and change subj
    2. Ignore for a day or so before replying
    3. don't reply. And give her a call a few says later (I got some stuff not regarding r/s that I need to enquire anw)

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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    any ideas guys? on how to move things forward

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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    Apologies for no one responding.

    So let me get this straight? You've gone 2 months with NC and want to go on MORE NC? Lol. Well your goal is to get her back right. Its simple. Get her to chase you. Wait...thats easier said than done. So how do you do that? Use push/pull. It's my favorite style of attraction building outside of say dhv stories designed to flip attraction switches.

    You can use push/pull with your words and/or body. Mix and match to give her the biggest mixed signals and really build up the Tension between you two.

    I think you should respond. Tell her "Lol that's ok. I just saw blah blah blah that reminded me of you." If she doesn't respond well then calibrate with an IOD. "Yea it reminded me that you're such a dork." If she responds positively then just disappear for a few hours. Now THAT'S how to have a woman waiting on you. The only way to have a woman want your validation is if you give her a taste then take it away.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    "Get her to chase you. Wait...thats easier said than done."

    thats right man, the past 2 months haven't been easy for me, and i guess its the same way for her as well though she does have a few orbiters to make her feel better.

    "Yea it reminded me that you're such a dork."

    haha that was exactly what i did to spark the conversation initially, with almost the exact same text. 1 Question though... how do i do a mild IOD??

    now, i have actually proceeded with replying that day even though no one gave me advice but yeah.... there she is, not replying/playing "games" again. point to add, right before i replied her, she was posting some "sh!t tests" on social media, saying how the waiting is making her curious... and how people shouldn't let pride and ego get in their way. but after i replied, these things kinda stopped. haha might be thinking too much myself.


    my goal intially/now was to spark enough conversation through texts and then finally give her a call to schedule a meet up to show her the new me/ dhv.. but i guess 1. the texts conversation got dull after awhile. 2. sometimes she might still be afraid of us getting too close.

    i am thinking of giving her a call a few days after this, doesn't matter if she does reply that previous "dull" text or not. am i doing it right?

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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    beaming the *batman* signal. haha any other ideas on how to take this forward?

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    update: so with the advice of some friends, i went to fire up a call with her... and it went positively well. Lots of small chats and some laughter, nothing too serious. Haven't asked her for a meetup/meal yet because it was really late and she needed to go to sleep/work the next day.

    so my plan now is, wait for her to get back to me (asked her some misc thing which she can help me with) and then give her another call/text to get to meet up. here's to hoping....

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    I've been a bit AWOL. Sounds good that you two talked. Its about time.

    I think you should find a reason to meet up with her without trying to "meet up" with her. Find an activity you have been dieing to do and tell her you want her to come along.
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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    yeah, i thought it was about time to contact her too. and although it seemed positive, i think/feel that she is still very cautious when it comes to contacting with me. she definitely wants the feeling of being chased though, cause the last time round she felt as if she was too "easy" to get.

    yeap, i'll definitely try to ask her to "come along" for something soon, even if its for a meal.

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    UPDATE:
    so i have went ahead to continue talking to her through text to build some rapport. though her reply has been slow, (likewise mine is as well, but i kinda don't bother too much to play the "wait to text" game with her anymore. i just reply whenever i was genuinely free. i.e. few hours after her replies sometimes). While i could tell she most likely was delaying the replies on purpose, for whatever reason.

    she has reacted by liking several of my photos on fb, to which i was taken aback as well, and a few of my status. While i didn't read too much into all those, i still went ahead and called her to ask her if she is free to meet up for a casual lunch. She thought about it for awhile and told me she might already have something on, and she'll get back to me.
    I Felt okay since i didn't put too much hope on her to accept the invitation the first time round. And i could tell she was still rather cautious about coming into contact with me. Guess she still couldn't trust me yet.

    That said, i went ahead to thank her for a sweet little memory (heard that it works well), she smiled and laughed a little before the phone call ended.

    now few days later, she still haven't got back to me about our meal so i send her a text to gently confirm with her again.

    Now what do you think i should do at this stage? Go back to NC? At this point, my confidence level is definitely much higher than few weeks ago.

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    Default Re: Broke nc, ADVICE on next step (reconnecting)

    do you guys think i should send a text that kinda acknowledge what i did wrong? i.e. i acknowledge the fact that i... made you felt... you didn't deserve that.


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