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Thread: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

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    Default opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    To keep it brief as possible...

    Dating a girl for about 8 months, we probably went way to fast, basically living together after 2 months, every night at one or the others, we both had draws and keys. Call me cheesey, but she's perfect, not just a girl friend but a best friend too.

    2 months ago, she went for distance education in the states, she is away for 9 months in total, we never really discussed the long distance thing, never realised how hard it would be. At first she was calling, texting and skyping continuosly, it was honestly to much.

    After a while she obviously started connecting with new social groups, and time between contact began to grow. I could feel us growing apart, for some stupid reason I thought it would be better to just break up, than grow apart. We discussed it, and agreed.

    I've changed my mind, I want her back, she doesn't see the point, doesn't see how it will be different, says she still loves me but I deserve better. Thers is still 6 and a hald months until she is back.

    I'm in Australia, what do you think? Fly over, try and win her back????

    So far it's been 2 weeks, deleted her number, cut off personal contact completely, However I just included her into a group email. was sure to put her in the middle of the list.

    Any opinions or advice is much appreciated.

    Cheers

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Really sorry this is happening, but why the hell did she leave in the first place. Long distance is such a pain especially if you can't drive to see her, but have to take a boat or plane.

    I know you want her back, but I think it will be harder later. Its inevitable that it won't last. She should've never left.

    If you want her back just tell her that you made a premature decision and want to keep trying for as long as possible.
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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Cheers mate, She signed up for it last year, it got approved the week she met me, she still says she wouldn't of gone if she had met me first, but parents already paid for it. Thing is she is defs coming back, but why would I risk being hurt again, if she can't put aside 6 months of her time?

    I figure one last fight you know? now or never, double or nothing sort of situation....

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    NO! your sounding like an AFC!

    Give her space to have fun, Work on your inner game for 6 months and you'r social proof and when she see's your Facebook or whatever you social proof on she will contact you and you hit her with Alphamale, Confident male.

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    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Double or nothing sounds good. There's nothing saying that when she comes back you couldn't try again. Maybe you'll have a new girl by then anyways. I know she's incredible, but Kino is so important in a relationship. I would just go your separate ways for now rather than trying to hold onto something that'll probably end in 3 months anyways, despite your best efforts.
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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Boys I feel you 100%. I know going over is def the sad man move to make

    However, I think If I don't have one last shoot at the goals now I'll regret it.

    I have no problems with women, had a few one nighters since we broke up, but over superficial crap, and def stuck on oneitis with this chic.

    partly cause I'm an A$$hole and partly a self preservation act, I wouldn't give her another shot again when she came back, not if she's not willing to give me a shot now.

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    Quote Originally Posted by chris230692 View Post
    Boys I feel you 100%. I know going over is def the sad man move to make

    However, I think If I don't have one last shoot at the goals now I'll regret it.

    I have no problems with women, had a few one nighters since we broke up, but over superficial crap, and def stuck on oneitis with this chic.

    partly cause I'm an A$$hole and partly a self preservation act, I wouldn't give her another shot again when she came back, not if she's not willing to give me a shot now.
    This ^ won't end well. I'm a creative guy and I can't imagine a greater example of chasing a girl than literally chasing her to the other side of a planet. That's a huge dlv and will probably lose any and all attraction she has for you.

    Also if she's such a great chick why wouldn't you give it a second chance when she gets back - IMO no girl who isn't worth a second chance would be worth an international ticket (which - flying over there - seems like a second attempt anyway after it ended when she left in the first place)

    As for her not giving you a shot, don't hold that against her. She doesn't really have a shot to give. Imagine if she had cancelled her year long plans and highly expensive travel arrangements based on a 2-month relationship (not knocking it, just a short time) if she were to do that I would run for the hills; it wouldn't exactly be the emotionally stable/rational type of behavior I would require for anyone having a key to my place.

    Don't mean to sound harsh bro, but for what it's I'd say keep your feelings in check and think logically. Seems like you've got a level-headed solid chick who is LTR material... in April 2013.
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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    I agree with Autismus that she is LTR material, and does seem to have a level head on her shoulders in not cancelling her plans for her education. I too say keep your emtions and everything in check and you should get something to do or take courses to improve yourself in something, and before you know it the 9 months will be up and you can try to reconnect and seee what happens.. Right you are not thinking straight by flying half way around the world on a chance, and I think the only reason why you want her now is because she is not available. I know this is not what you want to hear but let it go for now bro!

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    Default Re: opinion please!!!! Do I go for one last fight?

    I agree with what pretty much everyone on here is saying. You're going to have to go NC for a while, maybe for a little more than a month. I know it's hard, I just got broken up with this past week because of distance too, so I'm right there with you man.

    The important thing is to keep your head up. Distract yourself, pick up a new hobby or go back to an old one. Not saying you should go try and find some other women immediately, but whenever you feel ready. You shouldn't let what residual feelings you have for this girl keep you from doing things that you enjoy. Make sure you show that you can have a good time without her. The next best thing to success is the appearance of success.

    Hope this helps.


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