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    Default Need Help with NC

    Well my girlfriend of about a year told me she needed a break a week ago today. Whats confusing me is that she doesn't want NC, she says she still wants us to be friends during the break. Should I suggest NC myself or use the communication to get her back somehow? Thanks in advance to any help.

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    Default Re: Need Help with NC

    Nope. She doesn't get her cake and eat it to. She's basically saying she wants the comfort of your current relationship while she dates other people. If you want her chasing you then give her a taste of what it's like if you were not in her life at her beck and call. So go NC.
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    Default Re: Need Help with NC

    I can't echo or yell this loud enough... Batman is correct. You go no contact immediately, if she asks, just say 1 text, "I need some time and space to think for myself" and leave it at that for 3-4 weeks. You will not lose if you do this I promise . But if you send one text, email, letter, phone call during this, your breaking the rules.

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    Default Re: Need Help with NC

    Thanks guys. One more question though, we're both seniors at the same high school and have a class together so I still see her everyday. So should I keep NC going at school too and tell her I need some time and space to think about myself there as well?

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    Default Re: Need Help with NC

    Yep, just keep conversation short if she initiates contact (hi, doing good... then walk away).

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    Default Re: Need Help with NC

    Yea. You can be "civil" and not talk to her. A quick glance and a smile. If she initiates "Yea I'm fine. But I have to go now." Very very short. The best revenge is to live happily.
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