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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    Pretty much. Not going to give her the courtesy of using me like that.

    At least I know she's driving herself crazy, even with this new guy around. She told me I didn't seem sad at all about the breakup, as she's been Facebook-stalking me and looking at all the pictures I put up of me with other girls/having a good time. Sh1t worked like a charm.

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    Man, You Really REALLY have to let it go for now at least,don't be sitting around wondering what she's doing(It'll drive you crazy) and calling and communicating with her, give it 45 days... If she calls you your too busy to talk right now it really is a waste of good energy you could be using elsewhere...

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    If its not broken, don't fix it. If what your doing is working keep doing it. I do agree that for now you should refrain from giving her the satisfaction of talking about how she feels about you. Its what she wants.

    As far as the forty five days thing goes, don't put a number on it. Your the only one that can decide when your ready, try not to think about it and try to be happy without her and you will know when you are ready to give it another shot.
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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    Understood. I consciously made the decision to stop speaking to her for a while last week after she blew up on me. Before that, I had gone NC for about 3 weeks, but apparently it wasn't long enough. I'll just keep doing my thing until I feel like trying again, probably around a month or so.

    And 'working' may be a bit strong of a word in retrospect. I mean, she's dating someone else right now, so really nothing I can do will 'work', at least not until I'm back home. Fortunately the guy won't be much of a threat when I'm back. No car, no job, no degree...just a burnout. More than likely a placeholder/rebound for her to fool around and hang out with while I'm gone.

    Still, made me glad to know I'm still on her mind, otherwise she wouldn't have mentioned creeping my fb pics, posts, etc. Small victories, small victories...

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    Bf destroyer will work no matter where you are but if you don't need it, Theres no point. I think your good to go dude
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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    This is sort of an update, but not much of one.

    It's been almost 4 weeks NC, last time we spoke was on the 6th or 7th, don't remember. Last night, her best friend sends me a message saying 'hey' and that she missed me.

    I'm certain her best friend isn't interested in me, and I'm definitely NOT interested in her. But I casually converse with her about the goings-on back in my hometown, what I've been up to, etc. without mentioning my ex, and then cut it off.

    What I'm wondering is whether or not this was an attempt by my ex to check up on me by having her friend initiate contact. I'm not looking too much into it, just wondering what your thoughts are.

    As for me, I've been doing much better lately, thanks mostly to NC. Been keeping up my diet/workout, and hitting up the clubs tomorrow night. Definitely feeling much better about my situation than I was a month ago.

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    I broke up with my ex a few months ago. I genuinely thought it would go the distance but then bam she told me she cheated and it all fell apart...

    My advice is to simply let it go... I know this is fucking hard to do and you seem like you are doing better now.

    I found that all my energy I was expending on being angry at her, trying to make her jealous and being cold with her was actually hurting me a lot more than it was her.

    I forgave her in the end and I have to say it was the best decision I ever made. The NC gave me perspective and objetivity about our relationship, she wasn't right, she hated sport (big thing for me) she was very insecure and had self-confidence problems.

    We now talk every so often and I have placed myself in the friendzone because thats where I want to be not because she wants it... I simply look back on it as a good relationship that has taught me loads!

    I owe her a lot as well, she taught me I was attractive and instilled a lot of self-confidence in me. I wish her the best and I genuinely hope she is happy and finds a nice bloke who will treat her well.

    My point being, that forgiving and moving on really helped me, its not being a pushover its helping yourself!

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    After carefully looking over my situation, I've decided to really, really move on. I sent her a message breaking no contact to let her know that I am blocking her from fb, not out of spite, but in order to get over her, and again wished her the best.

    Maybe when I come back I'll feel differently, but even though I feel better now than I have in months, she's still in the back of my mind every day. And if I want to get the most out of my time here, I have to completely let her go. Not wasting any more time thinking about talking to her, because in the end, it will get me nowhere.

    Thanks for all the genuinely good advice. When/if I come back something happens, I'll be sure to make a new post and let you know how it goes. But that won't be for a while, it's time to focus on LIFE.

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    Default Re: Ex dumped me for another guy

    Some help to get over her if ya need it Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

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