Hello so to give a bit of background I am 24 years old and the girl is 23 years old. We have dated on and off for 2 years and I was the one she lost her virginity to. We have been back and forth before and did not talk for 5 months previously, however, we started dating again back in April.
We would see each other once during the week and once on weekends, however about 10 days ago I said I wanted more out of a relationship and she said she couldn't and we had to be done. A couple days later she was friendly and we texted casually.
Then on Friday I said I was thinking about her and she said so was she and maybe we could talk. I then texted her again on Saturday and asked how she was doing and I said I missed her. Then she said we can't do this, this is unhealthy. I said okay I won't bother you anymore, but this isn't how I want things to be.
I feel down because she said maybe we could talk but then didn't. We both said we loved each other and have good chemistry but she said she wanted me to be happy. Now I haven't talked to her in 3 days and I realize how much I miss her. We have been back and forth together a good number of times before.
My question is do I just keep NC for a month, then try to spark up a casual conversation with her? She said this is difficult for her and she cares so I'm hoping she misses me so much she will want me back. We are from different cultures as she is Persian and I am white.
Also, she is attempting to become a doctor and I work full time so our schedules are different. I do want her back, and I know she loves and misses me but I'm not sure if its enough to get her back. Whats the next step?