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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Careful with any spiteful behavior. If you give him the feeling that you are only acting out to make him jealous then it could make the situation worse. Everything you do has to be genuine. So don't rub in his face "you're the one that wanted this!" Just raises the risk in my opinion.
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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    I've seen this senario a few times with my buds who started going to strip clubs and then become infatuated with a Stripper because they were told that they were good looking and all that stuff, to separate them from their money, and lets face it that's their job. But some guys go overboard and think the woman love them and willing to get up everything they had worked so hard over the years for. Trust me when I say it will only last a few months because once she goes back to work or he demands that she conforms to a typical girlfriend things will start falling apart and emotions like jealously, regret will come into play. Her lifestyle now is working at the clubs, having fun and being in a transient state, and do you really think she is going to want to settle down and become a stepmother to three children? I don't thnik so! With that being said the best thing you can do is take the advice that others have said and get yourself together spiritually, physically, and emotionally so this way if you both decide to reconcile you will be doing it from a position of strength and then you can set the tone for getting back together or push for more compromises that may have been dominated by him in the past. Take care of those children because they should not have to suffer for his complete disregard of the family. All the best to you, and just let me know if you need more help.

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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Quote Originally Posted by Heartbrokengirl32 View Post
    My friends tell me to move on and not take him back but they are not me and I believe it's my choice so they are no help at all.I do believe I made him jealous he text me and said if I of need anything ask my new man I text him back and said that's none of your business your the one that wanted this.so I hope that was the right thing for me to say he responded back with he will get the rest of his stuff from the house this week
    He's obviously jealous but don't just keep it up turn it up a knotch each time. Loose more weight dress sexier be with a different hot guy with a better car each time..........
    Another question: in the futur when someone talks bad about pua what will u say to them?
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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Update he stopped by this morning I think he only wanted to see if I had the guy staying here because he didn't have a reason to stop in early in the morning he also text me about the bills that are due and was really nice about it we only talked about the bills and he said he was coming by tomorrow to fix some stuff in the house that have needed fixed for a while I don't know what my next move should be.I hope no one ever says anything bad PUA it has helped me alot and i would recommend this site to anyone who needs help

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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    You're next move is to sit back and enjoy seeing things unfold. Doing nothing is still doing something. I would even go as far as if he tries to talk about you two, then I'd brush him off a couple of times just to get him to work for it. Have in your mind "He has done the most aweful thing. He doesn't deserve to have me open up to him and tell him how I feel."
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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Well said gentlemen. I've read some good post here. Looks like he's already starting to see what he stands to lose. I totally agree with Flyer1, it will only last a few months with this type of girl. Heartbrokengirl32 if and when you and your husband reconcile you should seek out a good marriage councelor. Find the underlying cause and work it out. People in healthy marriages don't just up and leave their spouce and children. I'm guessing the problem has been in existence for alot of years but was never dealt with. Lack of communication set the wheels in motion. Maybe this can server as a lesson to everyone visiting this site. Just because you find the person of your dreams, marry them and have children doesn't mean the 'game' is over...it continues!

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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Update he text me tonight and said I'll give you the satisfaction of knowing you was right and I was wrong I responded back that I was busy right now.I told him before he moved out not to do it because she was not going to stay with him so maybe she left him already?If he does want to come back which I hope he does should I take my time before I let him come back how should I go about it?I really want him to think twice if he ever gets the urge to do something like this again.

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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    I say take your time because you don't want him to think you are desperate and needy for him, for if he gets that impression he will misuse you again. Now is the time to get your ducks lined up (little pun) knowing what you are going to say, and how you will handle it from this point on. Things can't be like they were before he left you will have to have strength and let him know that you will not take his sh1t, and if he mess up again there is no coming back! Also demand that he goes to counseling with you to find out what is the root problem! Good luck to you!

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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Alright, looks like your getting some results here. Admitting guilt, checking to see if there is a guy around, and suddenly wanting to fix things around the house are all good signs... Make him work for it! I agree with many of the other posters on here. This relationship with a much younger Stripper doesn't look like it's gonna pan out and at the end of the day I'm sure your husband realizes that you can't make a ho a housewife! What I want you to do is just continue to play hard to get. You don't want this to be too easy for him. Keep dressing sexy, be mysterious, and radiate positivity.
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    Default Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!

    Do a few sessions with a marriage councilor before you make any dicisions.


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