Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!
I don't think that you should let him know that he could come back whenever he wants. He has to feel that he might lose you if he doesn't hurry up and make a move. I get the feeling that he knows that he could get you back in a heartbeat and that's not good. He has to feel fear of loss in order for him to come to his senses.
To be honest with you, I think that you should focus on moving on with your life. Usually when an ex sees that you're suddenly moving on without them they want you again. It seems to be a reoccurring theme with break-up's whether it's the guy or the girl that left. They alway's want you back again when you really start to move on and let go. So, my advice is to start moving on.
“The great mistake is to anticipate the outcome of the engagement; you ought not to be thinking of whether it ends in victory or defeat. Let nature take its course, and your tools will strike at the right moment.” -Bruce Lee