Re: Need help husband of 17 years left for someone else please read!
Well, the general advice is to go no contact for at least 3 weeks while you get yourself together but since you have kids together that's not going to be possible is it? My suggestion would be to agree with the break-up/divorce and do the usual things that re-spark an exe's interest. Act like your happy, work-out, change your hair style, get new clothes, start dating, etc. People want what they can't have so I wouldn't be suprised if he started to change his tune when "all of the sudden" he couldn't have you. The problem is once you start to rebuild yourself and move on, you might just decide that you don't want his sorry ass back! Go limited contact and act like your just peachy with the whole situation. Go listen to destinys childs "I'm a survivor" a few times until you get your inner warrior back. Keep your head up. Sorry you have to go through this.
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