Sorry If this is long or if I am posting it in the wrong place but I really need some solid direction and advice to get my X back..
Let me start with we work together.
My X and I have been on and off for 7 years. In the beginning I demonstrated so many Alpha male patterns and completely dominated the relationship in all areas but as time went on her sh1t tests got to be and we went all out in all directions of abuse. I continued to always try to improve our behavior patterns and they did and we grew but we would get into fights and break up both acting foolish. Now I am 7years older than her and I had my sh1t together but as time passed on I don't know what happened but lost all the power in the relationship. I went from a powerful man to a whiny clinging complexed bitch.
We broke up continously almost every other week because of some drama. I would do it she would do it but finally I felt that I needed to stop that sh1t and really just refocus and make this work. Well for whatever reason I bugged out because I didn't want to be around her parents because they were such d1cks to each other. And I told my girl this and she flipped out and I dumped her, realizing this was just a lame way to handle a relationship I tried to fix it but she said it was over now for good.
This is where I really bitch out, we went out to talk , I told her let's sit down and talk so we can be civil to each other. In the passed I was always able to get her back but this time was different. We met at an icecream shop and while we sat down she tore me a completely new asshole while people were sitting down around us. Reminded me of Jerry Mcguire. Well I made a seen outside, cried screamed simply flipped out. When a friend of mine that she hates called to check up on me, she said to her " it was over" so I grabbed her phone from her and threw that it, as if she really had a long distance call. Well I walked away distraught.
Here are a few extra facts:
We work together.
Her parents hate me and so does her extended family or atleast I think they do, it depends if she is happy I assume or whatever she tells them. She is a drama queen telling all her business.
All of her friends at work are telling her she can do better.
Every time we would fight and break up , she would become harder and harder to contact and she would ignore me for longer periods of time. And we broke up 100's of times.
I read the pdf "how to get your girlfriend back" and i sent a letter saying she made the right decision and I agree with it and that something great happened and that I would like to share it with her soon but that we need our time. Also I put that maybe one day we can become friends.
Her responds was that it was her decision to break up and me agreeing is not how it works. also she said we can't be friends right now and she does not know about the future.
I see her at work everyday and I am supposed to avoid her for a month. My birthday is coming up in two weeks and hers is 4 weeks.
Well I tried to give as much information as I could and I am sorry for all the errors or the mistakes writing. Thank you for reading this and hopefully someone can give me great advice to get my girlfriend back.