My long distance girlfriend (3.5 years) broke up with me around 10 days ago. We were great together, just twice we had a few difficult weeks together but nothing too serious.
The reason why she broke up with me is because she says she doesn't feel anything for me anymore.
I refuse to believe this because until a year ago she was madly in love with me, and I don't think such emotions can be 100% gone.
Anyway, after the breakup of course I tried to convince her without really getting too angry at her. Now I know that was already a bad move, but I think the damage is limited.
In the week after the breakup we still talked on msn daily, but 'as friends'. She really wants to keep contact with me because we were each others first experience in everything and I also think it's special to keep knowing that person.
The thing is that I want her back so much...
So during that week after the breakup I was searching and reading incredibly much on the internet and the same first moves always returned: 1) tell her that you accept the breakup, 2) take an NC period and wait for her to contact you.
So last Saturday that's what I did, I said I accepted the breakup (which actually pleasantly surprised her) and I suggested not to have contact for some time.
So now actually I'm waiting until she contact me...
The problem with that now is that next week it's her birthday... and I wondered if I should send her a birthday card?
If yes, what should I put in it?
If no, why shouldn't I send one? Alright, it's nc but still, it's her birthday.
Can anyone help me out with this one?
And can someone also tell me if I really have to keep waiting for let's say 1.5 month until she contacts me? And what to do next?
Thank you very much!