ok back story, met this girl, probably rate her an HB6, she came hard on to me when see saw me and wouldn't take my first attempts to push her off that night, she had the magic touch for some reason when she touched my side, so I decided to give her a go. She convinces me to go back to her place (has a daughter but she isnt there) as i decide that this after party my firends were going to would be a cockfest, so we had sex all night and into the afternoon, well 5 hours of sex, 4 hours of sleep. We talk some both before and after and she says all the right things to me, passes all my test, plus she was by far the best in bed. We go out to dinner, as we hadn't ate anything all day, and talk some more, she has to go to work, and I head up to chicago for NYE with my friends, i text her throughout and after i leave the event party we talk on the phone for 2 hours that night, which also I blew off a possible 4some with 3 horny 40 year olds...
well after i get back from chicago, I head to her place where we get active again and talk a bit, I'm finding that she is amazing, what i want in a woman. she give me a key to her place that night and we have an perfect relationship, never fighting. 2.5 months into the relationship we start talking about moving in together. I am finishing up my schooling which would be done in the spring so I plan to sell my house and move to a city what we want to live in after I finish up my MBA. She is working 2 jobs to support her and her daughter, so I wanted to help her out enough so she could just work one job and spend more time with me and her daughter. We also talk about having kids and she said she wanted to have a child with me after we move in together and after she turns 30. Things go great, I get done with school, and start the process of getting my house ready and looking for a job closer to the area that we want to live.
She is then late on her period, 6 days late, then has it so she is not pregnant. S
A week later my friends throw me a surprise part for finishing my schooling which she couldnt go cause she couldnt get off work. Well after the party I go back to her place to see her after work, My text asking what she is up to doesnt go through, and I for some reason didnt get her call, but she goes out with her friends for a bit then comes home takes a shower then goes to sleep without having sex (odd because we got heated all week talking about it and sleeping naked together). She sleeps all morning, something isnt right, she tells me she freaked out about having another kid and says she doesnt want to. I clam up then and dont really know what to say. she has to work the weekend so i go home and say i want to comeover to try and work things out when she's off work. Well I do and says she cant give me what i want and she feels she needs to break up with me, I tell her that I dont want to but if this is what she feels i respect it. She give the line as she wants to be friends with me since i am such a great man. I go NC for a couple of weeks, doing a lot of thinking, and I realize I dont care to much if i have a kid, as I only wanted to have one with her, and if she didnt i would be fine with that. I tell her this over the phone as she doesnt want to see me in person, she says she just cant and doesnt want to talk to me. I go NC for a couple of more weeks and then drop a text seeing if she wanted to talk, no she doesnt. NC for a few more weeks then go to her place and talk to her so "i could get some closure". she is cold, and doesnt really want to talk to me, I have NC for a month then tried writing an email telling her how i felt, did not good she gets pissed and tells me to stop and leave her alone. So its been a month since NC, I even didn't wish her a happy birthday though I wanted to.
The way she is acting is completely not her from what I have got to know her. It makes no sense as I was everything she wanted in a man. the only thing that she ever complained out after we broke up was that I am not as talkative as her. so during this time I have been working hard to overcome that. I am reading various books about that and also NLP books, working on conversation every chance I can get. ALso got prescribed Adderal which also helps me become more talkative, lack of focus as of late and helps with my narcolepsy.
I have been dating a few woman and practicing my relationship game becoming a better boyfriend. One girl HB8 I went out with then after having a long date decided she wasnt the one for me and didnt want to waste my time with her, she wants me still. Another girl that i met online HB5, she had some good qualities, but didnt pass my all my tests so I told her I am having issues with getting over my ex so i couldnt date her, she wants me badly. Just got done dating this HB9 where we dated for 2.5 months, kept her around as we did a lot of fun stuff and traveled, well I could tell she has been withdrawing from me and she is having problems getting over her ex from 2 years ago, I was her first serious relationship as she only had a few with a bunch of douchebags.
I figured she would wait till now to break it off with me as she wouldnt do it before my birthday or our trip that we planned, she did it after we got home from the airport last sunday, least she gave it up to me that night then broke up right after lol. So I began NC on her, would like to practice on her for the HB6 that I am really after.
So HB6 is going to be hard to break NC with effectively. We dont run around the same circles, lives distant. I need ideas. I could show up at the restaurant were she works her night job, but it wont be casual, as obviously she would know I am going there to see her. I would have to defuse her quickly, not sure how. I will probably wait another 2 months of NC in hopes she is less resistant.
So I need some kind of ideas, if you could please help me out.