Getting over your ex.
Before I start I want to make this clear, this is not a guide to getting your ex back. This is to help you move on when you realise that you are better off without her even if you are still in love with her. This is the exact same thing that I have been doing and am still doing to ensure that I don't slide back into the 'wanting her back' stage.*
1. Go out and meet new people and other women, do this as soon as possible, this is important for a few reasons, going out and meeting new people helps you forget about her and helps you realise you can have a good time without her. It also re affirms your faith in the fact that there are other fun, hot, eligible girls out there. Once you start meeting other women again you start to realise that although what you and her had was 'special', you can still have magical moments with beautiful women.
2. Affirmations. Ok so I learnt about affirmations from 'natural game' by Gambler. He says to use them to up your confidence etc maybe record them and listen to them before you go out, or say them in a mirror etc. So I adapted this idea and came up with some affirmations to keep me on track. I don't remember where all of these came from, I'm sure some were on this forum. So if any of these lines came from you, my thanks and apologies for not mentioning you I just can't remember. My favourite ones are as follows:
First one is a bit long but it's just awesome. Found it in 'the game' by Neil Strauss. Kudos.
'We have this idea that love is supposed to last forever. But love isn't like that, it's a free flowing energy that comes and goes as it pleases. Sometimes it stays for life, Other times it stays for a year, a month, a minute or a second. So don't fear love when it comes because it makes you vulnerable. But don't be surprised when it leaves either. Just be glad you had the chance to experience it whilst it lasted.'
Short and sweet. I know someone on here said it in a post can't remember who tho :/
'ex is short for extinct'
Ohh yeah made this one up myself
'love is a fleeting moment in time, confidence is forever.'
From Dr. Seuss
'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened' ( I like this one because it reminds me that even tho your no longer together you had some amazing times and you shouldn't spoil good memories with bitterness.)
My MMA instructor says this and tbh it applies to everything in life.
'pain is just weakness leaving the body'
So they are the ones I use, not as much anymore but if I'm having a bit of a sh1tty day they still help. Make up your own or use mine. But it honestly does work to keep you thinking positive.
3. Remove all means of contact. This rule is something a lot of people say I shouldn't do as its like shutting yourself off. But I think it helps massively, delete her number, we don't want any drunken texts going her way now do we. And block her on fb, even if you split amicably tell her why your doing it. Remember you don't want her back you know your better off this way, so if your worried about offending her then tell her you need to do it so you can get over her. Otherwise you will end up looking at her fb page all the time and that's not good, and it will hurt if you see guys flirting with her etc. so why put yourself through it?
4. Occupy yourself. By this I mean do something which requires commitment and concentration, focus all that frustration elsewhere whether it be a sport. ( I personally got back into MMA and the gym with a vengeance.) Or it could be college/uni work or furthering your career. Maybe learn to play an instrument or work at perfecting your game. Basically what I'm saying is don't sit around moping and thinking about her. Get back out there and live life to the max.
This is what Iv done since splitting with my ex, I hope it helps people on here as much as it's helped me good luck