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    Default Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    Getting over your ex.

    Before I start I want to make this clear, this is not a guide to getting your ex back. This is to help you move on when you realise that you are better off without her even if you are still in love with her. This is the exact same thing that I have been doing and am still doing to ensure that I don't slide back into the 'wanting her back' stage.*

    1. Go out and meet new people and other women, do this as soon as possible, this is important for a few reasons, going out and meeting new people helps you forget about her and helps you realise you can have a good time without her. It also re affirms your faith in the fact that there are other fun, hot, eligible girls out there. Once you start meeting other women again you start to realise that although what you and her had was 'special', you can still have magical moments with beautiful women.

    2. Affirmations. Ok so I learnt about affirmations from 'natural game' by Gambler. He says to use them to up your confidence etc maybe record them and listen to them before you go out, or say them in a mirror etc. So I adapted this idea and came up with some affirmations to keep me on track. I don't remember where all of these came from, I'm sure some were on this forum. So if any of these lines came from you, my thanks and apologies for not mentioning you I just can't remember. My favourite ones are as follows:

    First one is a bit long but it's just awesome. Found it in 'the game' by Neil Strauss. Kudos.

    'We have this idea that love is supposed to last forever. But love isn't like that, it's a free flowing energy that comes and goes as it pleases. Sometimes it stays for life, Other times it stays for a year, a month, a minute or a second. So don't fear love when it comes because it makes you vulnerable. But don't be surprised when it leaves either. Just be glad you had the chance to experience it whilst it lasted.'

    Short and sweet. I know someone on here said it in a post can't remember who tho :/

    'ex is short for extinct'

    Ohh yeah made this one up myself

    'love is a fleeting moment in time, confidence is forever.'

    From Dr. Seuss

    'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened' ( I like this one because it reminds me that even tho your no longer together you had some amazing times and you shouldn't spoil good memories with bitterness.)

    My MMA instructor says this and tbh it applies to everything in life.

    'pain is just weakness leaving the body'

    So they are the ones I use, not as much anymore but if I'm having a bit of a sh1tty day they still help. Make up your own or use mine. But it honestly does work to keep you thinking positive.

    3. Remove all means of contact. This rule is something a lot of people say I shouldn't do as its like shutting yourself off. But I think it helps massively, delete her number, we don't want any drunken texts going her way now do we. And block her on fb, even if you split amicably tell her why your doing it. Remember you don't want her back you know your better off this way, so if your worried about offending her then tell her you need to do it so you can get over her. Otherwise you will end up looking at her fb page all the time and that's not good, and it will hurt if you see guys flirting with her etc. so why put yourself through it?

    4. Occupy yourself. By this I mean do something which requires commitment and concentration, focus all that frustration elsewhere whether it be a sport. ( I personally got back into MMA and the gym with a vengeance.) Or it could be college/uni work or furthering your career. Maybe learn to play an instrument or work at perfecting your game. Basically what I'm saying is don't sit around moping and thinking about her. Get back out there and live life to the max.

    This is what Iv done since splitting with my ex, I hope it helps people on here as much as it's helped me good luck

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    Good post mate! great advice to all who have been there and are there at the moment

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    great post, thank you very much...

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    Whenever I feel bad about my ex leaving me, I read this post over to set me straight. Thanks for your wisdom.

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    Thanks mate. Good post. Put me in the right state of mind to grab my life back and do whatever I want.

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    Hey mate thanks alot of that I Just fond out my Ex has a new BF and I'm gonna use those quotes you said to help me relax, unfortunately I do want my ex back, but I am going out and meeting other people last week I met 10 new friends and two girls. so I'm really happy, but this thread has put a smile back on my face thanks for that man

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    I'm pleased it's helping people, nice to give something back to a community that done so much for me

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    I totally agree mate, and your a guy I can truly respect. every since I broke up with my EX my heart has been in so much pain I didn't have the best of break-ups she told me she wanted to be friends, then the next day three of the most depressing songs come on Lawson - standing in the dark XD. but this website has completely changed my life and I'm grateful. I no longer play games and been hitting the gym everyday, and meeting new people

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    Good man, keep it up bro, and good luck

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Getting over your ex.....the lowdown

    This post is a Godsend to me. I have a serious detrimental case of one-itus. The girl that left me has moved on and I am still madly in love with her. She wasn't even my first love, she was an angel to me and I farked the relationship up. I can't stop thinking about all the ways things could and would be different if I had another chance, but the reality is I won't have another chance, there are several factors that prevent this. I'm an intelligent guy, I know this in my head, and it all makes perfect sense, but sometimes it takes a while for your heart to realize what your head does. I'll admit, I'm broken. Its getting a little bit easier with time, but I still have my moments. I'm glad I have a post like this to refer to when I feel like crap and just want her back. Thank you.


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