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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    Hey guys,

    I've been following your advice. I haven't contacted her and I've been focussing on myself, spending time with friends and updating my wardrobe.

    I've been invited out tomorrow by a mutual friend, there's a chance that she may be there, should I attend? The breakup only took place on tuesday.

    If I should go, what steps should I take? I think judging by what I have read it is way too soon to break no contact.

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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    Of course you can go, if you can maintain the frame. You need to be cool and unphased when you see her

    It's your world, she's just a guest

    If you're gonna go and end up whining for her attention back, then no absolutely not

    You can go because you want to enjoy yourself with your friends, don't go for the purpose of hoping to run into her

    They're your friends too so you don't need to avoid them. Just make sure you're confident and alpha, go, enjoy yourself, and don't make a big deal out of anything

    Acknowledge her if she comes, like an old friend, "hey how's it going?"
    Pretend you are unaffected and unconcerned. Don't hang on her, don't make expectations for her, don't be jealous if she's talking to others
    Just be
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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    ^what RB said, plus bring at least 3 girls with you
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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    So I've confirmed my attendance and I've been informed that she will probably be attending, but my friends are going to "keep us apart". I'm not entirely sure what this means, but it sounds counterproductive.

    I'm going to go easy on the drinks, so I can be sure I'll be in control and play it cool.

    Now what I'm worried is that considering the circumstance of our breakup, if I'm suddenly friendly towards her that just affirms her behaviour was acceptable, or am I totally mistaken there?

    I have a feeling she may try and get with someone in front of me to make me jealous, how should I play off that situation?

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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    your friends are going to try to "cockblock" you, or at least thats what it sounds like to me, you should try to be friendly to her, not because you want her back, but to show that you respect her decision to break up with you, show her that you don't care and you are better off without her. have a good time and have fun, btw if she trys to make you jealous just ignore her and hit on the waitress don't loose your frame whatever you do, stay calm, cool, and collective. this should be a good learning experience for you, weather or not you progress with her.

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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    Just so you guys know we will be in a club environment, so there will be no waitress to hit on, bartenders in the UK are generally pretty unfriendly types too.

    If (not expecting, but I'd like to cover my bases) she tries to get back with me, how should I respond? Guessing I should make her work for it? (any tips?)

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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    Now what I'm worried is that considering the circumstance of our breakup, if I'm suddenly friendly towards her that just affirms her behaviour was acceptable, or am I totally mistaken there?

    You are being nice to her as a way of showing that you have become a better, stronger man.

    I have a feeling she may try and get with someone in front of me to make me jealous, how should I play off that situation?

    This is why you're bringing a minimum of three other girls. I had a winky face, but I wasn't joking. You shouldn't care. She's no longer your responsibility.

    If (not expecting, but I'd like to cover my bases) she tries to get back with me, how should I respond? Guessing I should make her work for it? (any tips?)

    Hell no. She's not getting anything from you and not for a long ass time. Give in right away and you're right back where you started. You've gotta have some pride. Stick to your guns.
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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    So, the night out is tonight.

    Here's a rundown of my plan, critique would be welcome.

    I'm going to arrive at the bar where everyone is meeting around half an hour to an hour later than everyone else is due to. This will hopefully ensure that most of them are there and that I don't get stuck in an awkward situation with it just being me and her.

    Have some drinks and laughs with my friends, acknowledge her presence but don't pay attention to her.

    When we head over to the club I'll be making sure to display a lot of energy and have a good time.

    I won't be able to bring any girls with me at this short notice. Should I attempt to meet some new girls in the club?

    There is a guy I am thinking she may try to get with. He is a friend, but he's got with other friends exes before. Is it appropriate to take him aside before we get to the club and tell him I'm not cool with him dating my ex?

    Are there any tricks I can use to look extra attractive to her?

    I've ordered a copy of The Game, but it hasn't arrived yet and I hadn't anticipated running into her this soon.

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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    I honestly haven't read anything of this thread but i'm gonna answer to the title, SHE dumped YOU without warning AND u want her back?
    Are u insane !?
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: Dumped without warning. How can I get her back?

    He is a friend, but he's got with other friends exes before.

    Maybe now is a good time to reconsider what makes a friend.
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