I know this is my first post here,,but here goes. I want to first say that my situation is extremely complex. I can only hope those with sound advice can relate and help me with my vision of this situation and make it for the best. I will start by saying my ex and I had been together for almost 3 yrs...we had a son a year and half ago..we were both in love or so I thought ,,she is 27 I am 36 going on 37. I truly believed in my heart we would be together forever and raise our son for the rest of our lives,,working together through life's pitfalls and being the best we could be for our baby boy. I have always been dedicated to that as soon as I saw my son being born,,and that will never change ,,whether this woman decides to be a complete family and work out our past issues or not. I guess what I am asking with anyone with some sound advice on here is ,,it has been a year and a half since she left and a few months after she got with some random guy ,,had pointless sex with him dropped him,,then to the best of my knowledge ,,she has been alone since then. I also have been with other woman ,,but my heart has been sealed off from them and as of now I too am single. I wrote her a couple of e mails as of late and I am trying to repair and mend this family in the hopes that we can be better than we ever were. I feel at times she has alot going on and I shouldnt force things,,she knows my thoughts and my heart,,but I am not going to wait forever and she knows this,,I feel she is worth it if she commits and we become better,,yet I guess her effort as of late has been lackluster at best. I know it will take time ,,and if she gets with another guy I will have my answer and then and only then will I only see her as just the mother of my child. I guess I am just looking for some new ideas to be the person she fell in love with ,,be better than him,,I dont drink dont smoke,,I am just trying to survive in this sad town that I exist in,,I truly want to get her back in my arms and KNOW that she will be happy with me like never before. I have been doing some light Kino as of late ,,when I leave the visits to see my son she will have him in her arms and I hugg him but I have been close to her,,the last time I was holding her arm as I hugged my son,,so she is becoming more comfortable again and I know that small steps are better than no steps,,but anything I can do to give her new insight would be good,,anything from anyone on here,,any ideas to get her to realign to me? Thnx in advance all,,peace.