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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    Okay this girl is confusing the hell outta me. Just got a text from her saying:

    I shall call you later to make it more personal, but for now HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

    Sometimes she acts like she doesn't want to know me and sometimes she does things like this.

    Should I reply to it or just leave it be till later?

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    if by now you've received your phone call, let us know what happened::

    alternatively if not, you can politely say "thanks for the wishes (y)" which will most likely follow up on another text from her ;;; you don't have to reply though, or you don't have to reply at all if she said she is going to call you -
    --but if she gets sh1tty with you on your birthday just hang up and have a great time

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    She hasn't called yet. She's at work, saw her car when I went to pick up a pack of Cloves.

    Usually the only time she calls we always end up talking about relationship stuff, but not going to let it go that way. The whole time we were together I can count how many times she's called on one hand. She's always been a big texter. Just wondering if this has anything to do with the way I was last night. Saw her right after hanging out with friends shooting pool and drinking so was looking pretty damn good.

    From what I've read so far on the forums best thing to do is just let it go and have a good conversation about anything except us. If she steers it in that direction, try to change the subject or say I don't feel like talking about that right now.

    I'll find out soon enough I guess. She gets off in 2 hours and is only 20 minutes away so if it gets to the point she wants to come over I'll invite her for a beer and small chat but that's about it. If I cave now there will be no turning back.

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    You need to stop idolizing her just because she helped you through a bad period in your life, and the way I see it you helped her as well especially with her son. Every time she texts you are always available, and willing to watch her son when she's in a tight spot. To me you are the one who is valuable because there is two of them and who else would take care of her son for free and make sure his needs are met. My suggestion is to stop going to her place of employment or the mall to have lunch, talk or just to walk around be unavailable and unpredictable. Also look into getting that job offshore so you can establish your independence once again, and through this she will find that no other person will be willing to take care of her son, be there to comfort her or even listen to her when she has problems. The guy who she keeps texting her once he finds he has to fill this role that you once had will be gone in a heart beat because he won't want the commitment. Trust me! Now during this time of being without her things will change in your favor, getting yourself together to keep her in the future during this time will also be critical, and if it doensn't happen of you two getting back together then you will be alpha enough to meet someone who miight be a better person for you.

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    That's the only place to get the things I smoke, I wasn't planning on going up there last night, I don't even go into the store she works except twice since we broke up and I haven't watched her son except once since we split. I've pretty much let her hang on a ton of times she's texted me, and I have gotten my TWIC card for offshore, just need the drug test and physical. I don't sit around and wait for a scrap of contact from her, I've been busy exercising and have even told her that I can't watch her son because I've had dates or other things to do.

    Believe me I'm not cowtowing to her. I just post here to see what other people think and I'm sure everyone here doesn't want me to put what I'm doing up here every second of everyday since we split. I'm not the same person that put the first post up when I first found these forums. I'm better than I was before.

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    I'm sure everyone here doesn't want me to put what I'm doing up here every second of everyday since we split.

    every detail counts, do it within reason and make sure all the vital pieces of information are presented, that way we can accurately help -not saying you didn't do this, just fyi

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    No call at all so sent a simple text: Thanks for the text earlier.

    Finishing off the night getting plastered with the roommate and passing out. No idea whether I should reply to a call from her tomorrow or not, but at the moment really don't care. It's my birthday!

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY best of luck with the hangover tomorrow
    down to business

    No call at all so sent a simple text: Thanks for the text earlier.

    maybe you don't understand the concept of BEING THE PRIZE, why the hell are you thanking her for her text? that's beta stuff, you're basically saying "i'll be needy and thank you for talking to me hehehe"

    do you think she likes that?

    she should be thanking YOU for replying to her...not the other way around

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    Ah hell yeah just reread the text and can see how it could be taken as "thank you for talking to me" and not "thanks for the birthday wishes." Need to pay attention to what I say.

    Well nothing so far so just cutting her out. Going back to NC and just doing my thing.

    And luckily I don't get hangovers lol.

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    Default Re: Need Advice On How To Proceed

    Okay apparently I've been handling this wrong so how would you handle it if the following happens? I'd like to not screw this up more than it already is.

    She did say "later" in the text she sent. To her I know that could mean a few days, and she was at her boyfriend's house last night I'm sure cause her son wouldn't be home till this evening or possibly tomorrow. Her phone is messed up so she can only talk if its on speakerphone or using earphones. So, if she does call tonight would you answer it knowing it was a continuation from her wishing me a happy birthday or would you just let it go? How would you steer the conversation into something positive? I know her father was military and tomorrow I'm going to our national cemetery to take photos for a friend of mine and myself of our father's headstones to do something with in Photoshop (graphic designer by trade but no jobs where I live for it that pay worth a damn). Should I ask her about adding her father's to it?

    If she sends a text asking me to babysit her son what would you do? Would you reply at all or just ignore it? Would you say you already have plans and let it go at that?

    Veteran's Day is coming up. She served in the Army. Should I send her a text saying Happy Veteran's Day and nothing else or not say anything at all? She was very proud of the time she spent in the service and we talked about it quite frequently.

    It's hard to avoid talking to her around this time of year with all the holiday's and mutual friends we have. We'll be attending some of the same parties I'm sure and I won't be running into her new boyfriend. Apparently none of her friends or our mutual friends like him, which I'm sure isn't helping the matter any. At first her best friend didn't like me but when I managed to get him a car from a friend of mine, save him $500 on the deal and teach him how to drive it in a matter of days his opinion changed and he told her I was the nicest guy he'd ever met.

    I'd like someone who has more experience in this area than I do to give me a hint about how to handle these things if possible. Honestly if I didn't give a damn about her I wouldn't be spending my time and your's trying to get her back.

    Thank you.


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