So here it is:
My gf of five years broke up with me, (We are 31) saying that I spend too much time studying and not enough time with her. (Not enough passion, she says) This is an easy fix, but she pulled away.
We live together, but I cut off all communication with her for 2 days, then she comes to me and says she wants things to be okay. I wasn't very agreeable, but had a conversation with her
and she said that she will date me again.
She said that I'm grounded from kissing and sex for 2 months(end date, december 22nd)
She has started seeing another guy, who is out of town, but will be working 2 hours away for the winter.
I did initially object to the new guy when talking to her, because she brought him here for a night. They slept on the living room floor with some other friends. When he was here, I acted like I didn't care that he was here (to him) and didn't say anything else about it to her.
She doesn't have a car, but that doesn't mean that she isn't going to have him pick her up throughout the winter.
She says that she wants me to be the bigger man, and to prove her wrong about me.
She is visiting family and friends in 2 other states, until the 14th of this month.
I'm thinking of going no contact again for at least 2 to 3 weeks after she gets back, as she needs space, and because I don't want her to think that she can have me around whenever, no matter what she does.
What should I look for to see if she actually gives a $hi* about getting back together.
(If she does, I know that things will have to happen slowly)
I really do think that she is worth it, and I did tell her that I understand why she broke up with me(whether that's beneficial or detrimental in this case- I'm not sure)