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    Default Texting her friends. Is it working?

    So the EX and I are back into no contact. She kept sending me shyt tests. Telling me "You have an open invitation to come to my house to visit me and not just my roommate (a close friend of mine)" but when I call her she says "Who is this I don't have this number saved" or "Only contact me if there is an emergency"

    So I said screw this im taking more time away, an extended vacation if you will.

    Well for the past two nights I have been on top of my game. I went to the club with this one girl and we hit it off really well. Dancing and laughing. I walked into my ex half way through the night. By walked into I mean literally, I was walking around and BOOM there she was. So I kept my cool, we made eye contact and I kept on walking trying to find my date for that night. Well, all night she kept looking at me and this other girl, I could notice it out of the corner of my eyes. she was noticing how my date had her arms on me ect.

    She texted her roommate, my good friend saying."What was up with last night. My dude(the guy she is talking to) got hit on by someone else, you didn't tell me you were going out too, oh and JT has a girl." I'm thinking to myself, Why is she texting that? Oh well.

    Well last night was a house party, again me and this date attend that and yet again, I run into my ex and her new dude. Well me and my girl are getting pretty drunk, laughing and socializing with a bunch of people. I whip out my phone and we are taking pics together. My girl kisses my cheek in one pic, then says "now my turn". So I kiss her while taking the pic. Like clockwork my ex walks by and sees the whole thing.

    She walks around and gives everyone a hug goodbye besides me (shocker) and goes to another party.

    Well her roommate wants to meet up with me for drinks and stuff so I leave and meet up with her. I was telling her about my night and showed her the pics. To my surprise she said "Oh yea I heard". Puzzled, I asked her about it. She said my ex told her "JT was at that party taking drunk kissing pictures". It literally was an HOUR from the pictures to me meeting my friend for drinks! ONE. HOUR.


    I've been keeping my cool and not even flinching when I see my Ex with other dudes, I have done a lot of inner thinking and really am not trying to be the jealous idiot that I have been. You know, trying to find ME again. I just don't understand her. Like, she tells me she doesn't care about me at all. She can see herself dating me again. But i'm the topic of convo each time I see her. What gives?

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    Default Re: Texting her friends. Is it working?

    No insight from the pros? Or knowledge on the subject?

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    Default Re: Texting her friends. Is it working?

    wow, first thing i notice is how much ur ex is still thinking about you! i mean, if she's been talking to her roommate about you, you must have been the focus of all her thoughts.

    what you are doing is making her jealous and ur indifference is driving her mad. She tried to "retaliate" but females don't really have the "control" over the emotion like men does. You can tell that when she's purposely giving everyone hugs/kisses except from you.

    Now, i have no idea how but she's still having strong feelings towards you, although not very positively. It's your job to turn those strong feelings into positive ones. Perhaps some pros can give some insight of how to!

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    Default Re: Texting her friends. Is it working?

    It does seem that you are affecting her, but it's not going to be enough. If after a couple of weeks she hasn't tried to talk with you about you and her, then you have to take it up a notch and use push/pull.

    Whenever you talk to her set her up with challenges. (not too much. Just a few.) Say things like "I really miss you, but I can't put myself through that anymore." It'll get her curious and feel like you are just out of reach. This is where the Artist part comes in because you have to put the right amount of dosage at the right time to get the fullest affect. Too much and your game is obvious, too little and she won't feel anything because she won't know anything is happening.
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    Default Re: Texting her friends. Is it working?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    It does seem that you are affecting her, but it's not going to be enough. If after a couple of weeks she hasn't tried to talk with you about you and her, then you have to take it up a notch and use push/pull.

    Whenever you talk to her set her up with challenges. (not too much. Just a few.) Say things like "I really miss you, but I can't put myself through that anymore." It'll get her curious and feel like you are just out of reach. This is where the Artist part comes in because you have to put the right amount of dosage at the right time to get the fullest affect. Too much and your game is obvious, too little and she won't feel anything because she won't know anything is happening.

    I just started no contact 2 weeks ago. Do you think it would be too soon? I'm trying to get the timing right. I want her to miss seeing me and NOT her just seeing what is up but still caring about her current dude.

    URGHH!!!! This sucks

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    Default Re: Texting her friends. Is it working?

    Wait at LEAST 3 weeks. 4 weeks is solid. Then you can contact her. Start off small. Casual "How ya doing" and whatnot. Finish the convo first and tell her it was nice. Then tell her you'll call her later. Afterwards go NC for two days.
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