I think I've pretty much got it planned out. Any feedback would be nice though.
Backstory: we had a 9 month relationship. She was sh1t to me, I was sh1t to her, but we also got close and told each other everything, stuff no one else knows. She knew I was with a bunch of other girls, and eventually found some other dude (who I happen to hate) at the end. Him and I grossly had a month+ of overlap until she stopped using condoms with him because I couldn't walk away from the sex. Which is why I'm here.
It's not easy to replace the sexual chemistry we had. Plus I'd really just like to fark this guy over. Her and I haven't been together or even seen each other for two months, but she texts me now and then. I think it's a game for her in a way.
She had hip surgery the middle of last month so I wished her well. Eventually we got to talking and I tried to get her to send me some naked pics. She has too much power with that though, knows I want it too much. She told me she would not be getting naked for me but she missed hanging out blah blah blah. I told her that was dumb and what could she possibly miss about us except for the sex then ignored her.
Fast forward a couple weeks to two days ago, it's my birthday, she hits me up, drops that she was upset she wasn't invited to my party, we chat a bit, banter a bit. I invite her out, she says she's busy, so I tell her she can get me basketball tickets for a late bday present. Then she says how would I explain that to [boyfriend]? I tell her not to make a big deal of it, if she wants to hang out she's just going to have to do it because what would he approve of? She then says she doesn't want to hang out because we'll just fight.
I of course get angry and tell her I am lol. So she tells me maybe she just shouldn't talk to me unless she's planning on sleeping with me [that'd be great if she'd actually do it; I'd like to speed things along though]. I just reply agreed.
That was last night. I really thought about just leaving it there, and it might be healthier, but... I can't lol. New plan is guilt. I sent her: "You know that was sh1t right?" Eventually when she responds I'll tell her I have no desire to sleep with her anymore after all the sh1t so if that's the only reason to contact me then just never contact me [lie, she's a great fark. She really needs to not be able to take my sexual interest for granted as much though]. After that I'll tell her that it meant a lot her being vulnerable and telling me that she missed me and missed hanging out and that then telling me she doesn't want to hang out after I warmed up to the idea was a really sh1tty thing to do [truth].
That's not going to get her dying to be with me, but the problem is [boyfriend]. If he finds out she's hanging out with me, which hopefully she'll remember she actually wants to do, he's going to get insecure and probably sabotage himself, leaving me with my fulfilling sexual relationship back.