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  1. #1
    Raptor is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Just making sure I'm doing this right

    First post, so here goes...

    I'll preface this with I know this could be a case of Oneitis. I hope that during this process I can figure it out, and I think the situation will lend itself to that.

    So, I started looking into PUA stuff just to boost my confidence really. Took that confidence to a frat party, danced and made out with a sober chick with a little bit of talk, was polite for a dude who was grinding with her. She leaves after two hours, i think I'll never see her again. She adds me on skype two days later, she has a long range BF. I wasn't quite sure what was going on, but just to see if I could, I apply Kino Escalation and BF destroyer stuff, which worked, and she was out of a relationship with him in a week and in one with me. F-closed her 3 days later. She had to remain connected to the ex because she had been living with him and he had all her sh1t, so i was chill with the occasional chat. About a month in, she starts talking to ex more and more, almost breaks up with me on a break. Things are good for 3 more weeks, minor fights about BS, then she says shes still in love with ex and she can't be with me, breaks up. We are back together the next day after I give IOD's and more, again per this fourms advisement. I was super emotional then, so I'm surprised it worked. She says shes still in love with ex and will try and move past.

    Fast forward to last tuesday. She goes back home to catch a flight to go to her parents, sees ex. I notice it immediately. It was like the almost break up all over again. I got needy over that week since i was stuck alone in my dorm (fark flying for turkey day) and on sunday, I said i was fine with just being friends. On monday, we hung out, I tried to create some sexual tension with Kino etc. while watching TV. I froze her out, kinda was like w/e to her presence, she asks whats wrong. I say calmly that it (friends) isnt working. She wants to talk right before she has to go to something (she had like 15 mins to spare) and I say "I think you should go." She texts me that night she will give me space to decide if we are still friends. So, at that point, I was going nearly no contact, just polite stuff if she bugged me. She texts me four times this morning before i wake up and calls me to use my scanner. I dont see why not as long as im non nonchalant. I keep that nonchalantness the entire time, taking a shower while she tries to work the scanner, getting the scanner to work for her, some small talk. She asks if anything is wrong because I hadn't looked at her (there really hadn't been a opportunity), i played it off as such and kept it light. She asked if we ere friends, I shrugged, she left angry at me, slammed the door. In class she texts me 3 times, asking if I still want a present she was making me, I say sure if she wants to make it. she also asks how much she owes me (quite a bit) and we work out details. She left me a couple more texts and i responded lazily, delayed. All is ok until she says shes in a relationship on FB and tries to hide it. I dont loose my cool to her, but take her off skype and FB. Last convo with her is as below

    her: u unfriended me?
    me: yeah, so?
    her: uhm thought u hadnt decided we weren't friends?
    me: didnt feel like seeing your status updates anymore.
    her: on here? i never update on here. i understand fb bc of obvious but i dnt update skype
    me: meh, kinda associated the two
    her : well i never update skype statuses tho....but i understand if u dont add me back
    me: cool

    2 hours later...
    her: thank you
    me: ?
    her: it said you added me back on here....
    her: nvm

    Other details:
    I was beta as fark a few weeks into the relationship.
    I have two weeks (this and next week, which is finals) til going home across the country for a month, where I will be super social, work out, and have a blast in general.
    She is either staying on campus or going to her parents, BF is a couple hours away either way, but hes poor as fark so its unlikely he will have many if any trips to see her.
    Her issues with BF started after she was at college for a month and couldn't be social because of him.

    So my questions are....
    Any issues with what has happened so far?
    Low contact (polite, only responses) or no contact?
    Ease back into her life via social media before im back, or when I do get back? OR wait even longer?
    She won't be able to see whats going on in my life via media unless its my profile pic because of my restrictions, change it?
    Am I missing any part of the strategy here?

    Thanks dudes.

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    Raptor is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just making sure I'm doing this right

    Quick Update, because of the "she owes me money" thing, I humored some texts today, sh1t seems to be having the desired effect

    Last night:
    Her: goodnight

    Today:
    her:still not talking to me? U kno u gotta talk to me for me to pay you back
    20 min later (I was busy)
    Her:Really Raptor??? Look can I at least get my tubaware bowl back sometime? I only borrowed them
    10 min later
    Me:I never said that. Yeah, you can. Dramatic much lol?
    Her:Well ya kno wen sumone dsnt tlk to ya for over 24 hours even wen u tlk to them normally they r basically ignorin ya
    (her grammar gets sh1tty when shes mad)
    me:lol again, you are being overdramatic. I've been busy, last week of class and all that
    (Not a lie at all)
    her:I understand its last week but no way uve bn so busy that you havent texted anyone.
    me: lol yeah, I talked to my parents and my roommate. Not really your business though.
    her: I wasnt asking who you were texting
    me; well, whatever you were asking, I gotta go to class so I'll ttyl.

    End contact. I feel like i handled it well except for the telling her who I have chatted with (more then just them) and my subsequent response. She'll probably try to bring money to my dorm on saturday, and I'm making it a point to go into the closest city to have some fun. figure she can drop it off while I'm gone or accept my frame and bring it to me on sunday, which I'll just take it and say I gotta study more (finals week!).

    Edit: Fuck, reading it back to myself, seems more angry then I wanted, any one agree?

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    Raptor is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just making sure I'm doing this right

    Ya know what? fark this sh1t. I have been working on my inner game and just focusing on me (working out, trying not to be a skinny fark, finishing semester work) and I've been more happy then I was for the last month with her. I think I'll keep in contact to leave the option to get laid, but I feel so much better. Thanks to the PUA all stars, as reading most of your writings is what got me here. I think I'll stick around and see what else I can learn


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