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    Default Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    My girlfriend for four years dumped me. I messed up really badly because I let all that sadness flow out as I talked to her. Trying to logic, explain and even beg to try and get her back. Lol I can't possibly have made anything worse than it is so I dont have anything to lose. I've already got the crying my eyes out process done and I've given myself 90 days to decide whether or not I want her back. I've pledged to hit the gyms and make myself a better person. I want her to miss me and most of all, I kinda want to make my life so good that she wants me back.

    So what's the plan guys? What do I do? What's first?

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Why did she break up with you?

    Was this really a good relationship or did you just become comfortable?

    Granted you may have loved her but was it really beneficial to you?

    I just got out of a 3 yr relationship with good reason. Sometimes it may feel like you want to be with that person but when you step back you realize it was not a good relationship for you. It may be too soon and you are overly emotional to make a clear decision. Hit the gym like you planned and hang out with the guys. Talk to girls and have fun doing things you couldn't before. Enjoy your life and who you are first. You may come to realize you want to move on.

    I was still with my ex and she started to pull away and show signs of breaking it off. I tried to use logic and emotion at first and it only made things worse. Eventually, I told her I need space. I had to Take Away from her and show I was willing to walk. At first she was angry and said go ahead. Then, she was hunting me down and wanted to work things out. Once I stepped away from the situation for a bit I saw things clearly and I left for my sake. I wasn't as happy as I thought. I was comfortable and putting up with way more than I should have. I did love her, sex was amazing, and she's a very hot 10, but I have to put myself above that and so should you. You probably saw those signs in her for awhile but did not realize it till it was too late. Girls will pull away and become more distant as they subconsciously and consciously want to leave and/or date someone else. They don't break it off last minute. They dwell on that for months typically if you were together 4 years. It just may be not be the right relationship for you. You can come out much better though. My philosophy on these situations, and most things: if it's not right it's wrong.

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Yeah. You're right. We ended up just deciding we're better off as friends and I accepted the fact that there's little I can do to bring her back. However, we have planned out going on trips to Chicago and such. Might be a nice friendship. She told me she might try to seduce me. I remained nonreactive and said, "Yeah we can have a friendship like that if you want." Basically, she's been on the fence about breaking it off because she still wants my comfort, but she was saying she doesn't want to open some of her old wounds. I think thats kinda BS, but whatever.

    We broke up because I made a mistake. Then she realized that one of her friends that she hated was actually one of her best friends and that she could have been dating him if he hadn't been dating me all that time. (Which hurt my soul) So she decided she didn't want to hurt me or him (Which is BS) so she wanted to be alone for a while and suggested I date other women. Chances are I have a slim possibility of getting her back. I'll friendzone her to death first though because apparently she'd rather not hurt her friend (Who just recently moved away and probably wont ever see her again) over the guy she dated for four years. Yeah... okay...

    Anyway. Thats that. I'm gonna ride it out and see where it goes.

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Women try and be deceptive but are easily read when they start speaking that way. When they are suspicious they are guilty. When they suggest you date others, they want to. Don't take any trips, don't be her friend, shut her out. If she loves you she will beg. All you can do is completely take it away from her. Don't be mean. When she does see you or reach out be happy, cool, loving life, dating, and too busy for her. Even if you are lying. May be too late but she may come back. Plenty of chicks out there so din't stress

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Only reason I'm taking the trip is because its spring break. Why not, right? I don't particularly want to start dating just yet. I need to brush off some of the dust. It's been 4 years after all. So I'll toy around with her for now. Push-Pull her like hell. Let her throw some seduction and then be like "naaa I'm good."

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    She's using you as well and you are letting her. She doesn't want to look like a slut and take another guy and she's prob scared to go alone or try and hook up with someone on vacation. You came across as weak when you begged and now she's exploiting you. Things won't get better until you stand up for yourself and say no. Go somewhere else and have fun.

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    You're probably right. Though you're looking at it very negatively. Honestly, having her on a back burner just makes me look better because other women will think I've got something going. I'll toy around with her until I find someone else to toy around with. Basically once I find someone else I'll probably NC her until she breaks and I'll be Nonreactive and such. She might be using me, but I'm using her as well lol.

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    I'd say I'm looking at her negatively and telling you to be positive about your prod

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Oops, mis-clicked. I'm looking at her negatively and telling you to be positive w/o her. You have to demand a certain level of respect. Breaking up w/ you is not that. Sounds like you are just stuck on her, but that's reasonable after a long relationship. It will not make you look good to other women. Hanging around w/ a recent long term gf will only look needy and like you aren't over her. The faster you distance yourself the faster you move on and stand on your own two feet. You don't need her.

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    Default Re: Girl for 4 Years. I messed up. What Do I Do?

    Yeah you're probably right. All comes down to the fact that I've got some pretty bad oneitis.


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