Hi, I'm new here, I have been reading some of the forums posts, newbies guides, etc over the past few days. I came her to get some advice from you guys on getting my ex back. I now realize I made a ton of mistakes but all I want is to have her back in my life. This is what happened:
We were already fb friends through another mutual friend but never talked or met before. I met her at a party and really liked her but I was downplaying it. I was gonna fb message her but I was busy and didn't go online for a week, only to see that she had already messaged me and wanted to hang out. I said ok and gave her my #. She texted me, I took her out for coffee, we connected, things were going great. We hung out and went out a few times, we had sex, and she said she wanted a relationship. So being dumb about it, I asked her to be my gf 2 days later (way too soon, I know). She would text me all the time and we went out 1 or 2 times a week, she'd cook dinner, we'd go out, hang out with her friends, etc. Then one night I wanted to have sex but she was on her period and didn't want to. For some reason I got mad at her and left. Also on few occasions I wanted to do it in the butt but she was against it.. Those things really hurt her and she was never the same since, I texted her I was sorry and we just forgot about it. After that, she didn't wanna hang out as often and eventually not at all. We had a talk about this and I told her she was choosing her friends over me (needy, I know!). She said how the whole relationship was about sex and we should go back to being friends- I got upset she was braking up with me but we hugged and she left. We broke up after 6 weeks of being together.
This is when I started making mistakes left and right. I felt devasted, started talking to her friends for advice, etc. A week after I texted her repeatedly (stupid...) but she wouldn't respond. I was upset she was excluding me but she said she was doing that because I had ignored her for a week w/e... I kept calling/texting for about a week with no responses. I ran into her a couple of times at parties and said hi, hugged, and left to dance with other people shortly after. I hooked up with a girl right in front of her one of those times. 2 weeks later our mutual friend was having a party we were both invited to, so being a noob I asked her if she was going- of course she didn't text back. I saw her there, I tried making some small talk, eventually she left. I have not contacted her since then at all, it has been 4 weeks.
Now I know I did some dumb things, and since then I have gotten with a couple other girls. I now realize I want to be with her, she really cared about me and respected me like no one else.
I was thinking of sending her a holiday card saying how I was sorry and would want her friendship back, because I feel like I said sorry before but didn't really mean it. Would this be a good idea or should I wait till I run into her at a party next semester and try to reconnect then?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!