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Thread: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

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    Default NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    hi, i am a "nice guy" who's learning to be more assertive/SBAP (TMAL).

    SKIP this - if u hate long BACKSTORIES
    when it comes to being the guy a girl wants, i can fly fine... but i start to lose grip when i'm convinced that i love a person... from there, my AFC/Nice Guy rears its head and i allow the GF to bitch n moan and have her way. there's only 3 people i've loved and they all follow the same patttern. They eventually become disatisfied and blame me for being an unattentive BF, when all i do is cator and bend to their whims (NICE GUY). i know i'm not perfect either, but this the general pattern.

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    i have spent a lot of time fixing MR. NICE GUY and, thankfully, i didn't give two sh*ts when my ex texted me yesterday. Since i never gave her a piece of my mind (assertively) i made up a game called "F*ck U Game" on spot.

    basically, u take turns saying "F*ck U, ur problem with the person"

    --// 1) u start it off, chances r she won't get the concept
    --// 2) go couple rounds - mood will heat up
    --// 3) now add humor to - simmer mood down
    /../ tell her what u need in order for u guys to come back
    --// 5) drop the game - short convo abt other topics and exit
    (#5 what i should've done in hindsight... we had a long convo abt our feelings)

    --- note: that idgaf if she did go away - risky game
    --- note: i also challenged her to run away from the issue when it got hot

    example convo i had:
    ME: F*ck U, ur fat head (she's slim HB8) makes these stupid jealous @ss rules expecting ur man to change overnight.

    EX: F*ck U, u talk nice to all ur girl friends and they're disrespectful to me. u don't make me feel special when i'm the only one that matters

    *few more rounds*
    *humor it now*

    EX: never mind, here we go again

    ME: no - u need to hear this... i need u to check ur temper because ur jealous behavior is redonkulous. u r like a farking polar bear.... i can't seem to punch love into ur farking head

    HER: all you need to do is throw a fish at that polar bear for it to feel love.. Who te fark wants to be punch to feel love??? And I did fark u already so u shouldn't complain.

    ME: ur not funny. only bill farking murray is funny.

    we had another hour of talking abt other stuff... i shoulda ended it to keep her mind fresh on what i said..... but at least i finally got the chance to let all my thoughts out - so it felt like i got the closure i wanted and that i've grown a bit from Nice Guy.

    lemmie know if this game sounds viable and critique it... maybe it's Nice Guy all over again and i'm not growing at all.?

    well, f*ck u then... jk.^^

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    Tried it. Risky but worth it. It worked a little and she's texting me furst but UK NCing. It really helps blow steam off too.

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    it felt empowering to be out of normal behavior and tell my ex off... i hope this is a good game for people in this situation.^^

    glad it helped u.^^

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    Just a tip don't let it turn into a He said She said thing. Maintain your logic as to why you're mad.

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    Really risky, how did u chill her down after you heated it up, how did u recover from there(i know its humor, but could u give an example somehow?)

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    correct me if i'm wrong but this is last resort stuff when things go sour, i mean there's no way you'd do this with a chick where things are going well? atleast that's the way i see it

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    ah - i did it yesterday and it worked... she's freaky nice now - lol.

    but i'm sad, cause she's telling me she's fallen to depression and eats little..... i'm just hella worried. i didn't to talk to her today cause i was busy.

    fml... total one-itis AFC ville....

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    Yeah I'm in Oneitis ville too. Now she's talking about how we used to be but scared to come back to me cause of how she thinks I'll eventually leave her. I'm fuckin up

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    Yo maybe you guys could shed some light for me here.

    My ex and I broke on her grounds "the isnt that spark"

    I had broke it off a month earlier giving her an ultimatum because she wasnt being decisive about where things were going.

    She came crawling back saying she wanted to keep dating and be more initimate

    I pressured her into a weekend alone in my town (were 2hrs long distance) and I blew it with a bunch of beta moves.

    I went with no contact because thats what id done before when I was the one who broke it off so I wanted to stay true to "its either all or nothing"

    Now im like oneitising like no other and shes like got me status blocked from her FB and everything and I have a flower order still being sent to her since before the break.

    Itll arrive the day BEFORE her bday (12/28) and says something sweet about how I wanted to be the first one to say happy bday.

    WHAT is she gonna think when that shows up? Obviously its not how I feel "anymore" even though I do, but she thinks were never talking again.

    I want to try your thing but Im hoping its her who does the crawling back. She did before but only when she sti wasnt sure about how much she wanted me. Keep in mind that weekend wouldve been our first time having sex together but I blew it so I dunno it feels like shes done and is positive she doesnt want to fuck me at all.

    If she does crawl back ill try this. But if she doesnt? WHEn is a good tome to contact her? Its only been 2wks so far. And what do I say? I was going to go with the "i kno i said no contact but ill be in your area soon and want to see how youre doing" and then hopefully initiate a few friendly meets and hold off on the break up convo and then give her the ol "i miss you" one night to make her melt.

    BUT i kind of want to show her im way more alpha now, because I feel like that would spark her interest again and me trying to be friends for a little in hopes of getting back together is just beta as fuxk.

    So which is it, initiate contact again if she doesnt and see her and try to display the new alpha me, or do I do this and when I initiate it I just blow her out of the water with a big old FUCK YOU. Like hey i want to see how youre doing blah blah Her: "okay id like that" (in hopes that im going to go with her old lets just be friends idea) and when he says that I just say something like "wow that easy huh? I was only playing you can shove your friendship up your fat ass, you pissed me off- i broke it off cuz i didnt think it was gonna work and you begged me to stay in touch and said you wanted to be initimate and then you tossed me in a ditch and told me you forced yourself to like me- thats called leading someone on, i dont play that shit, just thought id bring light to the oh so perfect bitch that you are"

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    Default Re: NICE GUYs - let out tension w/ the F*ck U game

    @Sly

    my post is if ur in the IDGAF mode... it's to encourage the ALPHA in u speak truths that u were afraid to say.

    whatever happens - the only way to win something back is to not fear that i'll lose it. that fear is undermining ur growth.

    when u have issues - before heading to forums - ask urself first, would a man do this.? u already know the answer.

    if she comes back - she should understand where u stand.

    to remind u - don't expect her to crawl back.... let it be.

    it's not easy thing..... but try it. let the outcome go.... it will be what it will be.

    cheers.^^


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