hi, i am a "nice guy" who's learning to be more assertive/SBAP (TMAL).
SKIP this - if u hate long BACKSTORIES
when it comes to being the guy a girl wants, i can fly fine... but i start to lose grip when i'm convinced that i love a person... from there, my AFC/Nice Guy rears its head and i allow the GF to bitch n moan and have her way. there's only 3 people i've loved and they all follow the same patttern. They eventually become disatisfied and blame me for being an unattentive BF, when all i do is cator and bend to their whims (NICE GUY). i know i'm not perfect either, but this the general pattern.
i have spent a lot of time fixing MR. NICE GUY and, thankfully, i didn't give two sh*ts when my ex texted me yesterday. Since i never gave her a piece of my mind (assertively) i made up a game called "F*ck U Game" on spot.
basically, u take turns saying "F*ck U, ur problem with the person"
--// 1) u start it off, chances r she won't get the concept
--// 2) go couple rounds - mood will heat up
--// 3) now add humor to - simmer mood down
/../ tell her what u need in order for u guys to come back
--// 5) drop the game - short convo abt other topics and exit
(#5 what i should've done in hindsight... we had a long convo abt our feelings)
--- note: that idgaf if she did go away - risky game
--- note: i also challenged her to run away from the issue when it got hot
example convo i had:
ME: F*ck U, ur fat head (she's slim HB8) makes these stupid jealous @ss rules expecting ur man to change overnight.
EX: F*ck U, u talk nice to all ur girl friends and they're disrespectful to me. u don't make me feel special when i'm the only one that matters
*few more rounds*
*humor it now*
EX: never mind, here we go again
ME: no - u need to hear this... i need u to check ur temper because ur jealous behavior is redonkulous. u r like a farking polar bear.... i can't seem to punch love into ur farking head
HER: all you need to do is throw a fish at that polar bear for it to feel love.. Who te fark wants to be punch to feel love??? And I did fark u already so u shouldn't complain.
ME: ur not funny. only bill farking murray is funny.
we had another hour of talking abt other stuff... i shoulda ended it to keep her mind fresh on what i said..... but at least i finally got the chance to let all my thoughts out - so it felt like i got the closure i wanted and that i've grown a bit from Nice Guy.
lemmie know if this game sounds viable and critique it... maybe it's Nice Guy all over again and i'm not growing at all.?
well, f*ck u then... jk.^^