Hello everyone! I just found this forum about a week ago and have been reading it non stop ever since!
I was hoping to get a little advice on getting my ex back.
I'll give you a quick back story and I'll try not to make it long winded.
My girl friend and I were high school sweethearts. We made it through high school, 2 years of college together, and 2 years of college with a long distance relationship after I transferred schools. We got along great!
After one year of living together after college, we decided to go on an adventure and move to a completely new city away from all our family and friends so we could start our life together. Everything was great after the move! Life was a little rough and stressing financially due to the fact that I had to maxed out all my credit cards and spent all of my savings just to move us. I also was the only one working at first and making very little money.
Eventually she got a job working at a retail store that she loved. She worked hard and got promoted within 6 months. I also changed jobs during that time and started earning twice as much money. She continued to work hard as she was promised another raise and a promotion soon. I gave her all the advice and help I could and encouraged her to seek the advice of the people above her who already had her position at work. Little did I know that the person above her was a shady 33 year old man (we are both 25), who was just recently separated from his wife. She began working very closely with him. I was completely trusting as we had never had an issue with trust before. Nothing in our relationship was out of the ordinary. She even texted me in the middle of the day to tell me she loved me and was thinking about me out of the blue.
Then one night when she got home from work, I talked with her and she was very short with me. We went to bed and I gave her a kiss good night. It felt very strange. I asked her what was wrong and she just blurted out that she was breaking up with me and moving in with the guy she had been working with (her mentor). Apparently just days before that he told her he had feelings for her and would not be able to just be friends. She said she had never even thought about him in that way but when she did it excited her and she lost all attraction for me.
Fast forward to a month later and I'm sitting here mostly broke, alone, and busting my ass to get her back! I am attempting to follow most of the advice I have read on here, as well as heavily relying on the Ex2 system. Of course the first couple of days after the breakup I texted her once each morning and called her once at night. I even sent one email to her after a couple days. I then realized no contact was the way to go and stopped communicating with her. Out of the blue she texted me the other day and asked if I wanted to see our dog because she knew I missed him. I said I did but did not make myself available as I was still trying to get over her and knew the emotional state I was in was not going to be attractive to her. She texted me again this week and told me she wanted to drop the dog off at my apartment while she went to get her hair done and then would come by and pick her up and talk to me after. I politely said I was busy and that she could meet me at the dog park if she wanted. She never answered back.
I know she still has to have some feelings for me or she wouldn't be contacting me. Also, she is still wearing the promise ring I gave her even though she has been with this guy for almost a month now. Do I continue on the path of no contact? When is the best time to meet up? Do I just bide my time and hope she realized (or maybe her current boyfriend will realize) that their relationship isn't going to work?
Any advice I can get would be greatly appreciated! I left out quite a few details so if anybody needs more information I will gladly provide it. Just can't afford to lose everything I've worked so hard for in the last 8 years!