This is just an update from my previous post a few months ago, so for those interested, here's my original post.
Ex dumped me for another guy
I haven't checked in for a while, so I am happy to come back and bring good news to the men who, like me, frequent this page hoping for something that will help them get their girl back.
No, I am not back with my ex-girlfriend. It has been almost 4 months since the break-up, and we aren't having hot, sweaty sex in the back of my car, and we haven't gone on a romantic date where I swept her off her feet and out of her new man's arms.
But the good news is that right now, if I wanted to, I probably could.
After a month or so of moping around, whining about my position, and scouring the internet for any source of help or inspiration to get back with my ex, I finally decided to let go and take my life back. I hit the gym, changed my diet, and made a whole new circle of friends - all the while, keeping my ex at arm's length, not initiating conversations, and only communicating when it was necessary. It was hard in the beginning, but it got easier with each passing day. And then something happened that made it all that much easier: I met a new girl.
The next day, I woke up and my ex was, for the first time in a long time, not the first thing on my mind. I couldn't stop thinking about this new girl. I HAD to do something about it, to make a move on her while I could. So one night, I asked her out and she accepted. We had a great time, and when I brought her back to my room, our clothes came off almost instantly.
As for the ex, around that same time I got a message from her saying how much she misses me, wants to hang out with me when I get back in town, etc. She starts liking just about every post/pic I have on Facebook, and starts coming up with flimsy excuses just to get into conversation with me.
My response? I don't care. I know at this point I could get her back if I wanted to, but the thing of it is I don't. After not contacting her for a while, I realized I don't need people like her in my life anymore. She chose to walk out on ME, and only now realized what a massive mistake it was. Meanwhile, I'm dating a girl who treats me 10 times better than she ever did, and is every bit as good-looking. The only shame is that I will, unfortunately, have to leave her behind when I go back home, but that's just life.
So I guess what I'm saying is you can get your ex back if you really want to. I followed the advice given to me up to this point, and it would have almost certainly paid off if I chose to follow through. But NC made me realize I don't need her, and that there is ALWAYS someone better for you out there. If you truly want a shot to get back with your ex, you have to be willing to move on to bigger and better things first.
Good luck to everyone on this forum, and thank you to everyone who offered their advice! I hope this post helps at least one person.