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Thread: Ex girl... From nothing to something.. Any insight will be appreciated

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    Default Ex girl... From nothing to something.. Any insight will be appreciated

    Gonna shorten this up for you guys. Broke up with an ex about a year ago. Then a month ago we hooked up more than once. I like her again and she did too. Not gonna lie but I acted like AFC and I lost her. She stopped messaging after we hooked up, convos became short and rare. She hasn't messaged me in 15 days. I'm doing NC rule but she seemed to have lost interest. What should I do at this point? Continue NC rule? From her Facebook she seemed to have moved on, always going out and taking pictures... Let the insight begin... Lol

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    Default Re: Ex girl... From nothing to something.. Any insight will be appreciated

    Would be interesting to know how you broke up in the 1st place and who re-initated contact. But it sounds to me like one of those situations where when they know you like them they lose interest. It sucks.

    I guess it depends on what you want and how you feel right now. If you're feeling like it's too much hassle to have to play games then man up and walk away. I had a similiar situation - 1st time round she lost interest and I chased her. That was fatal. 2nd time round I saw the signs and ditched her. It felt great because I kept my dignity and was in control. She came back after that but I couldn't be bothered with the games tbh.

    Sounds like she is not a keeper so I guess you have a choice 1) play games, keep NC, act aloof and you'll probably get her interested enough to hook-up again 2) find another girl that likes you for who you are (AFC or not) and forget about this girl.

    I personally think that a relationship where you have to play games is tiring and too much hassle. But if you can handle that, go for it and have some fun. But chances are she'll get interested in someone else and drop you like a hot potato - or maybe she already has.

    You've done 15 days NC - well done! Keep it going and move on would be my advice.

    Hope this helps and good luck whatever you decide to do.

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    Default Re: Ex girl... From nothing to something.. Any insight will be appreciated

    I broke up with her and she initiated contact. I guess I shall move on then... Sucks though cause I really liked her..

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    Default Re: Ex girl... From nothing to something.. Any insight will be appreciated

    Hey bro, I know how you feel - you actually get to like someone and open up to them and then they lose interest. It's weird but I guess there are a lot of girls out there like that. These are the types of girls that are classic PUA material I think.

    Seems to me like most people on here are trying not to be AFC but you know what? AFC's get girls too - like all my married friends.

    Please don't beat yourself up for being AFC with this girl, if it was ever going to come to anything you would have to drop your guard sometime. And, btw, being AFC sometimes is OK. But never, ever let yourself be 2nd choice or some sort of fallback plan - if you feel that is happening, walk away. That's not AFC - that's being a man and having enough self-respect and inner confidence to go after what you want and drop someone that doesn't value you.

    You are too good for her bro - let it go at that. When she comes back, think long and hard about taking her back because there is a pattern here that she will probably repeat time and time again if you let her. Don't!

    Well done again on the NC - keep it going and someone better will come along soon enough.

    All the best.


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