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Thread: Urgent. In Deep shit. Please advice me.

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    Default Urgent. In Deep shit. Please advice me.

    Hi all, i have posted my stuff past weeks and i didnt get any reply. I hope i do get some valuable advice from u guys. Basically i and my ex has been together for 2 and a half year. An accident had caused us broke up and 1 month later i have been told by her that she enter into a new relationship. Although she had a new bf, we still keep contact with each other quite often. Things gone well and sometimes bad. In between these 6 years after we broke up. Our relationship was like on and off. We did stuff that beyond friendship. Last 2 year, both of us flew to uk to finalise our degree. After spending the earlier 3 months in uk, she made up her choice to be with me. However, after finish our study, we eventually flew bk to our local country and things had changed. She went bk to her bf. However, last year sept 2012, we flew bk to uk again to study post graduate. End up we been together again. However, recenty we just backed to out local country and again she abandon me and be with her bf. she told me she never know how to choose between me and her bf when comes to this. We have been nc for 5 days. And we may meet each other again probably next week to study at same university in our local country. I know its a mess obviously. What should i do ? Previously years we been stay nc for few weeks then she will start calling and texting me. Please help me. Need advice from u guys. Its been 6 years we are in on and off relationship. Our career path is the same. I am struggling.

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep sh1t. Please advice me.

    Hey.

    I'm no expert - just an AFC aspiring to be a PUA and working on it.

    But I do understand people.

    First of all you need to decide what you want. If you want an exclusive relationship with this girl, stop letting her have her cake and eat it. Right now she has you on a string and she knows it.

    If you don't want an exclusive relationship, let her know what you are thinking and focus on meeting other girls in Uni, work or whatever. Let her wonder for a change what you are up to and avoid any questions.

    Either way I would stop being so available for her. From your post it seems like you are fed-up of being messed around so don't accept it. You obviously like her but you can NEVER EVER accept anyone making you feel bad. When that happens, walk away with dignity and don't go back for more.

    As I say, it depends on what you want but my advice would be to keep No Contact and drop her. She doesn't know what she wants so why would you be her safety blanket? No way - you deserve better.

    Good luck.

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep sh1t. Please advice me.

    Yeah. I got what u mean. Basically what i want obviously is an exclusive relationship with her. Been told her quite some times during the past 6 years but yet she cant make up any decision. She chose her bf but in the other hand she somehow will keep contact with me. We are goin to the same uni. This is what i afraid of. Thanks for the advice mate. Cheers.

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep sh1t. Please advice me.

    Hey!

    obviously you can't say "no" to you GF/ex GF...try to say no a few times to her and meet a lot of HB to make her jealous and in meantime you probably meet a new love ou girl

    just say...fuck it

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep shit. Please advice me.

    That's sounds weird.. a girl like that is like just playing an arcade in a gamer's site. Talk to her and let her choose to the both of you to be with seriously and not just like playing around and make you fool.

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep sh1t. Please advice me.

    She is undecisive all the while. She is really a good girl. I really have no idea. I have been waiting for her 6 years after we broke up our 2 and a half year relationship.

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    Default Re: Urgent. In Deep sh1t. Please advice me.

    She might be a good girl but it sounds to me like she is playing games with you and this other guy. And you waiting around for her is not doing you any favours - think what else you could have been doing for the past 6 years.

    Man up and move on now.

    When/if she ever decides that she made a mistake and wants you back, she will find you.

    I know this isn't what you want to hear but there is no magic formula to get her back - all you can do is focus on getting over her and see what happens.

    You've waited long enough - too long in fact - time to let go.

    All the best.


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