Ok, I'm looking to get my ex back but I don't know how.
We had been dating 4 weeks.
The first three weeks, things were as good as they could have been, fantastic! I thought I'd met an incredible woman and was so happy, we both wanted to make as much time as possible for each other.
So what happened next?
She was unwell, so instead of seeing each other a lot, which we had been, we weren't seeing each other at all. I was ok with this at first initially as I wanted her to recover and we had plans to enjoy a good weekend together in the weekend just gone. Except, I think that all this week served to do was to drive a divide between her & I. I was quiet to her, giving her space to recover but replying to any messages, but I didn't want to go ott. So I think her feelings drifted from me as we had only been dating a few weeks up to this point.
Secondly, I'm sadly one of those guys who falls fast. Therefore maybe she felt too much pressure and I think that pushed her away too.
So she broke up with me 2 days ago, over the phone! So again we didnt see each other.
What can I do to get her back? I haven't messaged her since our break up. We broke up about 36 hours ago. I want to get her back and then take things slowly with her, at her pace. I have something of her's which she may want back. So I'm thinking if there was only a way to meet her for coffee, act like I'm not bothered, give her the something back and hope that the connection is there and by me playing it cool that she will be interested again. I'm going away for a few days today, to get my head clear. I'm trying not to message her until she messages me, if she does.
My course of action is this..,
Not messaging her for a few days, until Wednesday night, to give her some time and space. I will then send her a message asking how she is and suggesting that we meet so I can give her the item back. That if we meet for a quick drink so I can do so in a neutral venue.
Would that work? Or should I act differently?