So my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago and it really took a toll on me. However, instead of mopping around wishing for her back, I decided it was time to get myself together. I started working out, meditating, getting my priorities together, and focusing on myself. Well after about 6-7 weeks I was getting burnt out of all this and really wanted to see her so we starting talking slowly and after a few days we decided to hang out.
I decided it was okay to hang out, BUT I wasn't going to go to the old AFC me. I was going to still be the new person I have become (and am still becoming) since we broke up. When we hung out I realized that all of the weight I had lost, she had gained. All of the insecurities I had lost, she had received. All of the confidence I have gained, she has lost.
It was like I was hanging out with a completely different person! A person I realized I was no longer attracted to! All of the time I had spent thinking about her during those weeks was nothing but wasted energy. Now I still treated her as a good friend with respect, because she was an important part of my life, but the key word being WAS.
I just thought this might be helpful to those who are going through the same thing that I did. Breaking up with someone and getting over them can be an extremely hard thing to do, but it can be easier than you think. In my case, instead of trying to beg for her pitty and let me back (Like I've done before when we broke up ), I decided to start becoming the person I really wanted to be and spending time on ME. What I found out is that the person I am now doesn't have time for a girl like I had. Everything is what you make it, and it is EXTREMELY difficult when you consistently let other people make your reality!