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Thread: Motivation for those trying to get their ex back

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    Default Motivation for those trying to get their ex back

    So my girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago and it really took a toll on me. However, instead of mopping around wishing for her back, I decided it was time to get myself together. I started working out, meditating, getting my priorities together, and focusing on myself. Well after about 6-7 weeks I was getting burnt out of all this and really wanted to see her so we starting talking slowly and after a few days we decided to hang out.

    I decided it was okay to hang out, BUT I wasn't going to go to the old AFC me. I was going to still be the new person I have become (and am still becoming) since we broke up. When we hung out I realized that all of the weight I had lost, she had gained. All of the insecurities I had lost, she had received. All of the confidence I have gained, she has lost.

    It was like I was hanging out with a completely different person! A person I realized I was no longer attracted to! All of the time I had spent thinking about her during those weeks was nothing but wasted energy. Now I still treated her as a good friend with respect, because she was an important part of my life, but the key word being WAS.

    I just thought this might be helpful to those who are going through the same thing that I did. Breaking up with someone and getting over them can be an extremely hard thing to do, but it can be easier than you think. In my case, instead of trying to beg for her pitty and let me back (Like I've done before when we broke up ), I decided to start becoming the person I really wanted to be and spending time on ME. What I found out is that the person I am now doesn't have time for a girl like I had. Everything is what you make it, and it is EXTREMELY difficult when you consistently let other people make your reality!

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    Default Re: Motivation for those trying to get their ex back

    I'm basically in the same situation you are, I feel you. It's hard sometimes but once you get passed not having somebody around all the time it's easy. For me it just wasn't worth it anymore. The person I thought I knew is gone, so I have no one to miss or get back. I've found I have more time for my hobbies, and chasing girls is more fun then having to constantly deal with her problems all the time anyway. The trick for me is to look at it as a positive situation rather than a negative one. While I may have lost something, I've gained so much more and that's a good thing. Good luck, and happy hunting.
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    Default Re: Motivation for those trying to get their ex back

    Quote Originally Posted by Thatoneguyonforums View Post
    The person I thought I knew is gone, so I have no one to miss or get back.
    Never thought about it like that. Extremely well put! After seeing that I realized that this girl I liked so much was more a figment of my imagination then a real person. I made her out to be someone that I needed (AFC i know ), but more importantly something that she really never was, and once I destroyed that perception in my head it became a whole new ball game and EXTREMELY easier!


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