Me, mohawk, tight plaid pants, mohawk, blind in one eye, athletic build, loud and loved to party. Her a tiny little spanish girl, fit as anything, firey as hell, full red lips and always wanted me.
Part of that attraction was the fact that I practically never paid one iota of attention to her but when I did she would swoon.
Last summer I ran into her leaving the local mall, let her walk passed me and yelled, 'Don't I know you?' She told me later her heart skipped a beat. We exchanged information and I said I had to go.
It was a few months since then, I'd been living it up in the summer. Met a german girl to bring home to my bisexual girlfriend for fun. Ended up getting bored with my girlfriend and just wanted the german so that happend for awhile till she went back to Germany.
Obviously I knew that this spanish girl was a sure thing so I messaged her on Facebook, 'let's stop pussy footing around and do this.' so she laughed and said okay. We met the subsequent week. She had just gotten out of a previous relationship two weeks prior.
We had been texting and sexting for about a month after that, she was over at my place all the time, bringing over towels, clothes dishes. I was all for it which was probably a boundary mistake. I could have kept her craving me by busying myself with other thigns but I got wrapped up in the constantly good sex and fun times.
Then she gave me an ultimatum which freaked the sh1t out of me and I lost my game, instead of me taking the centre position in myself and ignoring it I let it get to my head and ended up looking like a beta b***h. Her ultimatum was, in two weeks she'd have to evaluate whether or not she wanted to stay in the relationship because she didn't want to make 'same old mistakes again' like leading on something she didn't think was going to last and subsequently cheating on her bf, an old pattern. She made an excuse saying she's looking for marraige material and if I were to meet her parents I'd have to shave off my mohawk, so I did. sh1t went down hill from there. I thought it was a good sign she showed up at my place the night before, Friday night. I hadn't been home so she let herself into my place with the key and found her lying in my bed. We farked and hung out all day and after she got off work. We teased eachother back and forth on Monday but then that night I delivered her another deal breaker. She passed out while texting me and I was telling her not to fark with me and wanted to talk all night. She saw my texts in the morning and was really annoyed. Then on Tuesday, the night we were supposed to hang out that she had rescheduled (the week before she had rescehduled on my twice). I said that I had sh1t to do so I need a yes or no. When it was a no I was like, 'Okay can I tell you why I've been nervous for the passed week?' She said, 'Sure'. So I asked her about the two week ultimatum and her response was as follows. 'I hate making you feel this way, I'm sorry but we have to talk.' She went on to say conflicting things like she said I wasn't gentleman enough, but then said that I wasn't the badass in highschool anymore, she also tried to use the fact I went back to smoking as a deal breaker which was never an issue before. My conclusion is that I ended up making myself, like I said before, 'look like a beta b**ch.'
She ended up breaking up with me last week and I want her back. I've read the posts listed in Cody's Sticky and the post itself is really great but these are the differences in situation.
I was emotional when she left, didn't cry or anything but just AFC sh1t. I asked her if she wanted to be friends and she smiled and said, 'I thought you told me if we ever broke up you wouldn't be my friend?' and my reply was, 'I don't know if I can be your friend, I don't know if I even want that 100 bucks you owe me. I'll try and contact you next week.' That was it.
So this is the current sitch. She deleted me off Facebook so now I can't make her jealous by having her see my posts with other women, of which I have very many beautiful friends and ex lovers. Further, how can I continue no contact when in two days I'm supposed to get this cash back from her? I'm tempted to just let it slide and then run into her at a party surrounded by other women. Then of course there's the possiblity of breaking that no contact and meeting up with her at which point I can start building up that comfort zone and give her subtle body language. If you have any other analysis of the situation or can advise me on what decisions to make, many props.