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    jules25 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    ...and now I'm struggling to pick up the pieces!

    Ok, here's the quick story! I met this great girl, 19, sexy, sweet...and she really really liked me. She was posting all kinds of stuff about me being the only one for her. Then, two weeks into seeing this girl, her aunt drops a bomb and tells her that she's seen me in a restaurant with another woman and that I'm a playboy and have many girlfriends!!!

    Before even talking to me she blocked me on everything! Finally she agreed to hear my 'truth.' So we talked and the way we left it, we agreed to take some time to think and then she told me she wanted me to prove to her that I only like her.

    So I give us a few days. She was busy with some other things. So I didn't message for a few days. But once I started again, she was really elusive and non-committal. I wasn't desperate or clingy in my messages. But now she hasn't responded to the last two I sent!

    It's crazy how much she liked me, and now all of a sudden she's ignoring me. Now usually, in similar situations I'd let her go and move on. But I really like this one, so I decided to take a chance and actually be persistent (something I've never done before), and I don't care about the consequences, ego, pride, any of that!

    So I'm looking for advice! Where do I go from here?????

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    Learning The Ropes is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    Tell her straight. Just say you thought you had something good and thought you would give it one last chance.

    Just say this is the last e-mail, text or whatever you are sending and if you don't hear from her again, you will respect her wishes and leave her alone for good. You have already explained so don't go there again.

    End it by saying something along the lines of no matter what happens, I wish you all the best.

    If it's over bro, be a gentleman about it and leave it at that.

    Then you need to walk away and be a man.

    Good luck.

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    jules25 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    I appreciate the feedback! Right now, I'm trying to approach it with the mentality that "the situation is desperate, but not serious." It doesn't look too good, but at the same time I'll be able to walk away when the time comes.

    I actually said something similar to what you recommended, but her response was elusive, like she couldn't make up her mind. And I didn't mention this, but I actually live in Thailand, so I'm up against some cultural differences. In Thailand, it's extremely difficult to get a straight answer, not to mention her parents are not happy that she was seeing a 26 year-old white guy. So if she hasn't responded by now, with something, I think silence is probably the clearest answer I'll get.

    So I think I've decided to leave it alone for a while. Maybe a little Facebook joke or something here and there. Nothing serious! And in time, if I'm still interested, I can casually try to reconnect. Sometimes the circumstances just aren't right (she lives at home but leaves for college in a few months).

    Any thoughts? Suggestions?

    Much Appreciated!

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    Default Re: Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    I think you're being played. She want's you to jump hoops now to prove yourself while she's doing nothing to indicate that she's willing to make a commitment. Not answering your text and deleting you from Facebook is simply rude and childish on her behalf and it's disempowering you.

    If you're strong in your frame you won't keep wondering how she feels or making excuses for her behaviour. Chasing her will not make her attracted to you and I think that's evident in her current behaviour, you'll only appear less attractive to her.

    I think what happened has happened. If you're really a player then you should just be open and upfront that you're in 'dating mode.' If she has a problem with that then it's her problem, you shouldn't have to change your frame for her and mess up your game in the process.

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    jules25 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    Definitely something to think about! If I made one mistake it wasn't admitting right away that I was in 'dating-mode.' I like that...

    But like I mentioned in my last post, I don't really care how she feels or what she wants at this point, and I'm certainly not jumping through hoops. Two messages over the course of two weeks is hardly chasing.

    All I know is that I'm attracted enough to her to not just kick her to the curb and move on. That doesn't mean I'm not talking to other women. That doesn't mean I'm texting her 3 times a day and doing nothing else but pining over her. Like I said, it's not that SERIOUS!

    I like the girl! Period! All I'm asking for is possible strategies that may help me succeed in acquiring this particular target despite the current situation.

    So if anyone has any suggestions for potential strategies, great! I'm all ears!

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    Default Re: Someone Dropped a BOMB...and now she won't talk to me!!!

    You need to leave it for now. You have done enough - don't do any more.

    You have made it clear what you want so just walk away and give her time to come to you. If she doesn't at least you have been confident and alpha enough to walk away.

    No texting, no facebook messages - nothing. NC is the only way to go.


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