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    numa is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default No communication time...???

    I find that funny...either genders play with this NC Time.I m trying to get my ex back at the moment...If I ask to men they say for the most of time I m doing well so far but now I have to cut all communication and that she has to be the one to contact first.Now If I ask to a woman her point of view she would say that I m doing fine but If I have no news from her for the next week I will have to contact her (If you want to understand read my previews post 'need advice to get her back' you may give me accurate opinion about it)

    what do you think about that NC time when getting back on an exgirfriend?

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    Learning The Ropes is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: No communication time...???

    NC is the best way to get your emotions under control and keep your dignity, which is an absolute necessity.

    You need time and space to adjust and move on and you can't get that by keeping in touch.

    Focus on yourself right now and wait and see what happens. If she is interested she will contact you. And if she doesn't you are moving on anyway so it is a win/win situation.

    Go NC and stick with it at all costs and no matter how hard it is.

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    canuckkk is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: No communication time...???

    I agree with learning the ropes. I've had a hard time keeping NC with my ex whom we share the same set of friends so it was a bit more difficult. The odd time I would see her at campus she would get nothing more than a smile and hand wave and im back on my way. But NC will water down the negative emotions, resulting for the bad memories and intentions to fade, leaving the good ones (which is what you would want if you want to win her back). My ex had starting dating someone new following our break up, but I still plan to continue NC until she contacts me first. I will admit I have had my urges to contact her, but I remind myself if I do, it changes nothing, it wont end her current relationship and come back to me, so ill continue to force on without her. Just remind yourself, silence moves mountains!

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    Default Re: No communication time...???

    Fair play Canuckkk for holding out on NC. I went no contact for 1-1.5 months and had to go back to work with her. She did react positively to me on a friends type level, even though she was loved up with some other guy. However..... my emotions were not under control!!! One minute im happy with her as i want her back, the next im angry with her for cheating which has basically ruined my chances as she now hates me!! Being around her is hard. Basically stay NC, it will help you get control and move on. The only way to possibly win her back is to move on and not care. Its a win win / lose lose situation if that makes sense. I think emotion mostly equals flatline - AFC

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    Learning The Ropes is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: No communication time...???

    Let's be honest here. We have all made mistakes with trying to be friends with an ex and breaking NC when the emotions kick in.

    However, you learn from experience and experience tells you that NC is the only option you have if you have broken up. It's that simple.

    The first time I went through the whole NC thing it was hell - especially the first 1-2 weeks. But it gets easie. And the alternative - being a doormat for some girl that wants to keep you around to make her feel better - is weak and needy.

    Do not contact her under any circumstances - make her come to you and walk away like a man if she doesn't.

    Remember, it's her loss.


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