Thanks for reading and offering advice....
Broke up with ex 4.5 months ago, nothing bad happened (cheating etc) just think her feelings started to change and she got scared (Friends warned me of this).
Have had limited contact since then, coffee 6 weeks after BU (went well until she turned talk to relationship, hindsight = big mistake) and handful of text messages.
Last message was last week asking her to catch up but she declined with still don't think its a good idea... have since found out that this week she has started to see another guy (not fussed), which her friend so nicely volunteered at the pub last night.
So during the break up I've been on many dates (20+) and really have just forgotten about the ex, worked out and returned to hobbies I enjoy... until the past couple of weeks (hence the recent message to her).
Recently (last 2 week) I've had this urge to contact her and try again with her.... and I can't say why but I just want to try. I'm really a different person to the one 4.5 months ago and know this will be well received.
I'm not scared of being rejected or the other guy... I know if I get in front of her I've got a really good chance of a second chance (and if not ohh well I tried)
So thoughts on best approach?
Given that I messaged her last week I'm going to wait another week or so but thoughts on best approach to catch up with her.