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    kingbastek is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default I need help with my next move using the "limited contact" rule

    So my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. The reason she broke up with me is that she is actually 10 years older than me and has children and she was feeling guilty about "stealing away my chance for a real relationship" since she was my first love and the one who took my virginity. We had been together for 3 years. She said she wanted to remain friends, and I accepted this offer because I didn't know any better. The way she explained it just made it so hard to resist the offer. She was telling me that she still loves me and always wants to be a part of my life, but in a way that she can see me advance and have all the aspects of a true relationship. I soon found out that we were not really friends in the way I had hoped and she was quite cold after the breakup. We go to graduate school together and I see her 4 days a week. I was pretty emotional for a few days until I read about the "no contact rule". I obviously can't employ that since I see her all the time, so I tried the "limited contact rule" instead, just using one word replies to her texts and keeping it school related. After just two days of employing the "limited contact rule", she noticed me talking and laughing with other girls in our class and randomly sent me a text saying "you look very handsome in black" and she winked at me twice today. I just replied "Thank you" and smiled back at her. I question is, if she compliments me again, do I compliment her back? Also, we have Spring Break coming up in a few days, should I switch from "limited contact" to "no contact" during that time?? Any advice would be appreciated!!

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    Sparta is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I need help with my next move using the "limited contact" rule

    Im in a similar situation being forced contact at work. So far things havent worked for me. Please read my ohter threads as they may help. When i got back to work she tried to be really nice and friendly (guilt) but i reacted coldly. There were a fair few weeks where people would tell me what she had been saying and i was the same.

    Now over time we just speak at work like normal and it is this subtle contact that has led to all emotions fading away as she has become comfortable and used to having me around.

    My advise would be: Continue having fun so she can see it. Do not reply to her texts. (Its good she texts you but may be cushioning) Keep answers short and sweet and thats it! Only when she feels a sense of loss will her emotions remain.

    She may have split up because subconsiousely she didnt think you were experienced or something but by showing her your independance and ability to stand on 2 feet she will notice.


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