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Thread: Had a Positive Meeting with an ex - Unsure on how to Proceed

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    Default Had a Positive Meeting with an ex - Unsure on how to Proceed

    I suppose everyone has got one ex that for whatever reason got under their skin more than all those other girls, a girl we really gave a sh1t about and for a lot of us I'm guessing losing that person was a strong motivator for us getting into PUA.

    For me, I split with this girl almost a year ago to the day, completely initiated by her, and it blew me apart. To cut a long story short, we were off and on for about two months after that initial split until I dropped a huge A-bomb on the situation, said some things, hurt her real bad... all so I could get a clean break because because I had a lot of work/school pressures and the situation with my ex was starting to affect it.

    Fast forward a year... right through me discovering PUA, dating and hooking up with a string of women, finishing top of my class at university, securing a solid employment contract, quitting smoking and bumping into my ex on just two occasions (both of which resulted in either an awkward hello or a stare-down between her friends and mine)... to last night.

    One year to the day since our initial split I bump into her at a club and after running the gauntlet of her abusive bitch friends and successfully brushing them off I chatted with my ex for about an hour, it was like rolling back the clock, we're swapping stories, laughing, she's giving me Kino, telling me how her current bf is a douche and that things are in trouble, all the while our friends are circling like vultures listening in, trying to interrupt, and she's brushing them all off so we can carry on talking, their presence is probably the only reason things didn't escalate. We left it with her asking me to send over some photos of a trip we took that she doesn't have.

    My question PUA'ers is; now that we are seemingly friendly, and that I have a legitimate reason to keep contact, how should I proceed? I wanna strategise... I would ideally like this girl back in my life on my terms... I mean the girls I've been seeing are ok, but they just don't tickle me the same. Or should I write the whole incident off as an alcohol induced aberration? Some fantasy, grounded in nostalgia brought on by us actually being nice to each other an reminiscing a little...

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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    Default Re: Had a Positive Meeting with an ex - Unsure on how to Proceed

    Don't contact her just yet, give it a couple days and see if she comes to you. If not open her with something like "Hey got those pics you wanted on a CD/Flash drive, some of these are hilarious/awesome (anything positive you say about the pictures is also linked to being positive about the time she was with you) so lets get a coffee on Tuesday and so I can give you them

    Obviously rewrite that so it sounds like you saying it. When you do meet her, just treat her like an old friend and have a laugh with her, use your PUA training on her a little.

    Put her in your friendzone, then become a close friend and then become a realllllly close friend and before you even know it you'll be back inside your exs vago.

    The sexual Tension and mutual attraction is already there between you so play on it a bit at a time and always be slowly escalating.

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    Default Re: Had a Positive Meeting with an ex - Unsure on how to Proceed

    Critical rap said it all! Put her in your friendzone and make her earn her way back to you because if you go all out she will see your desperation for her and plus you may slide back into the AFC/Beta role again which will give her all the power. You have made real progress up until now so donít lose it by showing how much you care. Good job man glad to see that pua techniques are working for you.

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    Default Re: Had a Positive Meeting with an ex - Unsure on how to Proceed

    Thanks for the replies, I've been out of the country for a week so I havn't had chance to check in. We swapped a couple of messages before I went away and I said I had a few more photos I'd have to search around for when I got back. Still not got in touch but I'll either message her tomorrow or ice the situation, she's a bit of a loose cannon so she'll either be really keen to meet or not reply at all, flip a coin. You are right though, should we get it together, I'm going to have to majorly friendzone her otherwise I'll be on the train to Betaville pretty quickly!

    On a side note, a very very productive trip away in terms of PUA flexing, New York girls are wild O.O I don't know whether or not my game was amplified by my accent but something clicked, I didn't wanna come home.
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