Need advice on maintaining a long distance relationship. My girlfriend decided she wants to call it off and extend her stay overseas to continue teach and to improve her Chinese. Was a great relationship when we were together, but the distance and time is killing the spark and I felt I took a beta approach to this unknowingly.
Her email from this morning:
I have been thinking about this recently and well, i really dont think this is going to work out. Mainly because of the distance. I have decided I want to stay in China and persue my career and possibly become a sweet ass chinese translator (given th hiring for ATC is not really plentiful right now due to recent budget cuts). The problem is, we are so far away from eachother, its hard to communicate everyday plus you also loose the physical aspect with a long distance thing. I also know that you are a lot older than I am and probably have different priorities such as starting a family. I do want those things but not for a while yet, I would like to establish myself in the world first. I know you were probably thinking the same thing as far as the long distance relationship goes so i thought id just make it easier on both of us. I think you are a really great guy and know you will find someone equally as awesome to be with. Also, in our discussion earlier today I know you said you were looking for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and I just dont know if I am ready for that right now. I know youre also probably thinking its pretty pathetic that I decided to tell you this in an email. However, the best way for me to express my feelings is actually through written word so its better to put my feelings out there. Also with my limited communication means its really my only option right now. If you want to talk about this on skype or whatever, I am more than happy to. I know you have a lot to do in the upcoming weeks with your new job and I wish you the best luck, youre going to do a fantastic job! I think it would be really cool if we could remain friends. I am sorry it had to be this way but in the long run I feel it is the wisest decision. I hope you are not so stressed getting ready for your new move and that it all goes smoothly.
I have an lengthy response ready, prob put it up in the post. Should I leave a simply response like a "k" and freeze her out for 2-4weeks or put my heart on the line and send the response I made?