Hey guys, fun update for everyone. So with the university year ending and a 4 months summer break upon its way, I thought to break NC and hit up my ex, as I saw it as a win-win situation. She responds nicely and warm, that's progress, she responds cold and b!thcy, oh well shes leaving to go away for 4 months anyways.
The result was cold and b!tchy, surprise surprise! We had broken up 6 months ago, and I had ran into her a couple of times on campus only to say a quick "hello, or hows its going?" and never strike up a conversation.
I had been studying last night cramming for finals, as I noticed she was sitting near by in the library for the whole day (her new bf was there but I didnt care as he's phytoplankton, and im a great white shark). I went and greeted them, only to be shunned from my ex but the bf was welcoming of me, a few hours past and my ex leaves with her bf with not even a simple good bye. Which I was disappointed in, as a span of 6 months should have cooled her afterburners and she should have been more civil as most people would agree.. Clearly wasnt the case..
I had deiced to break the NC and clear the waters once and for all with this stubborn ex of mine, as I politely texted her saying that, if she had any problems with me, she shouldn't be afraid to address them directly with me, and that if she was sincere on what we had established back in December of being civil towards each other and her viewing me as a great person, that she would work on her bitterness for me (she was the person to dump me). Essentially I brought up what she told me face to face and asked her if she really meant it or it was just a ploy to make me feel better in the moment.
That resulted in her somewhat blowing up and stating for me to "leave her alone" that she is studying and doesn't want to be contacted, and that "I am her ex and she doesn't want to talk to me". Which made me laugh but also feel a great sense of disappointment as nothing has changed within her as I was expecting. Im not shaken by this, she isnt ready to be in touch with me and I left the conversation by apologizing for contacting her and hope she enjoys her summer. Cheers to 4 months of more NC for her!
All I wanted to know by starting this contact.. was why she kept this massive "b!tch" shield up towards me since she left me, while I undergone and recovered from a somewhat serious liver infection, while I had a family death from the start of the break up and 6 months till now when she didnt have to. Was fishing for why she wouldnt show me any remorse essentially after she felt bad previously when those things occurred. If I knew, I would have the answers to all life's questions lol