My ex and I were together for 3 years and have now been broken up for about the same length of time (her decision, although she says it was my choice). She has a new boyfriend and I've moved on too but there's a part of me that would love to get back with her.
Here's the thing: every few months she'll get back in touch, generally upset about her relationship not going well or another problem in her life. I've been following the 'independent and distant' attitude since the breakup, but I don't know what to do these times she gets in touch with problems wanting to talk. It's a catch-22: I want to appear disinterested in her, but I also can't come off as a douche, and Ignoring her outright seems like the wrong move. So far I've been leaning on the 'good guy' side of things; with "I'm always here if you need to talk." but should I be taking another approach?