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    jdcrow2032 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Not sure what next

    I have gone no contact once before with this girl after a 2 year relationship, fell for some traps when she texted me telling me she wanted to work things out. Big mistake... we talked for a good three months but I wasnt making any progress, and we fought alot. After that, I went back to no contact. Been about 2 weeks. Today she texted me that her pet rat died (she bought it while we lived together)... Text was something like "Thought I should let you know that (rats name) passed away this morning. I didn't answer. Didn't know if I should say something like "sorry to hear that." or just ignore it. Worried that she is trying to climb back in my head and trying to string me along... Or she might be genuinely concerned about me knowing that her pet rat is dead. Lol. Advice?

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    Default Re: Not sure what next

    I am not sure I can relate to a pet rat, but if it were a dog I had, or something, yeah, I would be concerned and would want to know...

    So to the extent of it, you have to evaluate yourself and then this will determine if you should respond.

    You have to think to yourself... If I do respond to her, will I be pulled into the trap again?

    It would be a nice gesture to tell her sorry or something, but... is it going to open up the flood gates for yourself?

    If it is, then stay away

    I know how hard it is to try to ignore someone you genuinely cared about and loved (whatever that word means).

    It's as if it's easy sometimes, and insanely difficult at other times. So if you can honestly just leave it at a simple "sorry' text, then do so. If you are going to sucked in, then let it be and don't respond.

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    jdcrow2032 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Not sure what next

    Thanks, I have a problem after going no contact just handing control over. It's something I am working on.


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