I won't go into great detail on the woman in question. I have already mentioned her and our situation in posts prior to this one.
For the past month and a half I have been living in hell. Stewing over how I Farked up, how I can fix things & whether or not I should bother at all. During this time I've been drinking myself silly and punching many a bus shelter and brick wall. Obviously this isn't the best way to go about getting over someone and this had to stop.
A few of these things have helped gradually to make me overcome this.
* I'm currently reading a novel by the author Patrick Hamilton called Hangover square. The main character is hopelessly chasing a girl who is playing hard to get. This book put into perspective that my case of oneitis is mild in comparison to this guy's (inadvertently this book is also a great way to make yourself feel better about your own game.) He fills his time with hobbies that he once enjoyed but failed to do due to this girl. He takes up Golf again. I myself have started writing. In summary filling your time with hobbies helps clear your mind.
* My friends have been ripping me about it all. Making me quite aware how foolish I am. It p*sses me off but I know that they mean well. Support from friends help.
* This girl has deleted me from BBM and facebook. In doing so this has helped keeping us distant. I can't see what she's doing on facebook and I can't contact her as easily as I used to. This has helped keep her off my mind. No contact, whether it be on her or your part helps in cutting her out altogether.
* Speaking to her after the break up, she has been horrible. She has been posting pictures silently mocking me. Her actions have made me think why am I suffering for this? Definitely not worth it. As others say; focusing on her flaws can help make you think she's not all sunshine and rainbows thus helping the process of moving on.
Hopefully some of these things help get over your own Oneitis issues. It will take time but doing these plus other actions you can find on here help immensely. Doing the things I've listed here have helped me a lot. I'm in a lot better place than I was the first few weeks we broke up.
I've now come to the conclusion that I couldn't really care if she comes back at all. I'm not gonna lie, I still hurt. I know some of you may still feel the same. Look at it this way, everything in life is a step towards something better whether you realise it or not.
First post in a while thanks for reading