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    Default Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    My ex-gf dumped me and then returned twice. After she dumped me again for the third time, this time I called her. We got close than ever before, but she dumped me again recently. Common sense tells me to avoid her.

    The thing with her is that I know her past through her friend. She was engaged to another man several years ago, but she called off the wedding (during the wedding). She doesn't know that her mother confirmed this when I asked her mom. (Actually, her friend claimed that she got married and then got divorced soon after. It was her mom who claimed that the wedding was called off during the wedding).

    Would it be possible to have her back and have a stable relationship? I have never had a close relationship with a woman as much as I did with her. And she is quite attractive.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    I'm sorry to hear about that, man. Three times? This girl sounds like she's no good.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Hey man.

    The answer to your question is yes - you can get her back but you will need to game her.

    But - no - you cannot have a stable relationship with a girl like this.

    She's not worth it - she doesn't appreciate you so she can't have you. She has had enough shots at the title.

    Go hardcore NC and get her out of your system.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Quote Originally Posted by yankee4life View Post
    I'm sorry to hear about that, man. Three times? This girl sounds like she's no good.
    Four times. It's complicated. Even I have a hard time trying to remember. She called and came back to me twice. I called her after she dumped me the third time. She dumped me on the fourth too.
    I agree. I don't plan on getting back to her.

    Quote Originally Posted by Learning The Ropes View Post
    Hey man.

    The answer to your question is yes - you can get her back but you will need to game her.

    But - no - you cannot have a stable relationship with a girl like this.

    She's not worth it - she doesn't appreciate you so she can't have you. She has had enough shots at the title.

    Go hardcore NC and get her out of your system.
    I agree, but it would feel better if she still liked me. It's hard to bear after seeing how much she used to adore me. And we went to a lot of places together. Those places remind me of her. I exercise at one of those places often.

    Here's the story: We were introduced to each other. She dumped me after meeting for just a week. After a few years of no contact, she called me back. I fell for her and forgave her. I got dumped again. She came back and then dumped me just a few weeks later. She called me again, twice. I rejected her each of those two times, but I couldn't resist. So I called her back a few months later. This time we stayed together for a longer time. I was hoping that she changed. I shouldn't have done that.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Hey it ok to feel this way but theres is something you are doing unknowingly that makes her drift.once you figure it out you may present it.at least she was attracted to you once.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    I wish I could ask what made her drift. It's too late now unless I could get her to like me again.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Hey man.

    Look, please don't beat yourself up. This girl clearly does like you otherwise she wouldn't have come back to you a few times. And she will again btw - so be prepared.

    Sounds to me like the old story - they like you and as soon as they know you like them they lose interest. Then, bam! You get dropped on your head.

    That is not your issue bro - it's hers. And she will repeat this cycle in every relationship she is in. So do yourself a favour and go NC to the max. Defriend/block on FB, no texting, calling, nothing. Cut her totally out of your life.

    If you have the discipline and stamina to game this girl again then by all means, go for it. But she will pull the same sh** again.

    As for figuring out why she loses interest - who cares. You are who you are and you shouldn't have to change the way you behave for anybody.

    This is her loss bro. She realised it after 2 years and she will realise it again. So, for now, NC all the way and when she gets back in touch (and she will!) have a good, hard think to yourself if she is really worth the hassle.

    Good luck and keep moving forward.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    I'm starting to move forward, and I'm starting to eat now. I haven't eaten for days. (My belly has become concave).

    I noticed that my ex-gf's fb avatar is still the photo that I took of her on our date. She did the same thing on her previous dumping at me. Either she still likes me or she is so out of it that she doesn't bother to check her fb. Or maybe she is too embarrassed to show her breakup to her friends. That reminds me of my avatar of our date together. Maybe I should keep it there. I deleted all of my other photos of her that were on my fb.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Bro, like I said you need to go hardcore NC. Looking at her on FB will hold you back because (as you are doing) you start questioning everything and reading too much into things.

    This girl is obviously not a keeper and she will repeat this same cycle with you and every other guy she meets.

    So do yourself a favour and go total NC - not to get her back though - to get over her.

    Instead of looking at FB, post on here.

    All the best bro.

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    Default Re: Dumped by the Same Ex-Gf Again

    Don't worry. I contacted her only once after she dumped me. I hope that's ok.

    I have a friend who knows her friend. I found out that my ex-gf is still feeling upset. I wish she talked it over instead of dumping me suddenly. This is what I found out through my friend: before she dumped me, she got upset when I took her far away for lunch. I just wanted to show her a good view outside the city. It really wasn't far. It was just about 45 minutes away by car. She didn't look upset at that time. That was our third time we were away from the city together. During that time, she told me that she rarely traveled outside the city and going to certain places outside the city made her skin itch. She said that she was having a good time and that she'd try to "train her body" to get used to it. I noticed that she started to itch her face a lot. She has sensitive skin. It's very odd when considering the fact that the air would be cleaner. I also noticed that she tends to sweat a lot. She developed a rash after we went bike riding together. I never took her out for bike riding after that. I sent her an apology message after the dumping and after I found out. She said that it was ok, but it was very short compared to her earlier messages. I didn't contact her after that.

    When she dumped me on the second time, my friend told me that my ex-gf thought I was too "liberal" and that a different type of girl would match me. I didn't know what she meant by that. I had very little experience with women and I'm not a player. I didn't take her far away at that time. I guess she lost interest and just made up an excuse.


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