I'm 43 y/o and she is lower 30's.....20month old son and she has a 14y/o from other marriage. Im a doctor....she's a nurse HB9. Just finished 2.5 year very rocky marriage. Divorce/child custody was nasty, but at the end I gave in and paid for everything and took care of her at mediation. She texted "thx and god bless". She is old school Colombian, heavy into her religious faith....not a player or promiscuous. During the divorce I was angry and made all the mistakes. Finally figured it out 2 months ago and went no contact unless she initiates. I still love her and she is the mother of my child, but we just can't live together. As bf/gf everything was fine cuz we didn't live together.
So now divorce is over this week. We havent spoken since June 2012 except for text/email and seeing her 2-3x with lawyers in court due to not wanting to disrupt her life. Saw her and said hi for first time in months at mediation.....it was difficult for her....and me. The last 2 months I've been no contact unless she initiates, and she has a bit more by text lately. I've also been dhv. Most communication is about our son.
So today kid has a cold and she texts me about it....I text her I would take care of pediatrician visit....told her to go do her thing and have fun this weekend cuz she deserves it. She didnt respond except about pediatrician visit. What do I do next? Did i screw up?
I won't initiate phone, but we will probably see each other more during child exchanges(all previous exchanges were with her mom at public place...but today she said to pick him up at her place with her mom).
I need to take this slow but I want her to want me again and have a relationship again. I realize we aren't compatible living together. I'm fine with that.
Thx in advance.