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Thread: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

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    Default How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    First off a bit of background, My ex and I had been living together for 7 years. April 16th 2013 she dumped me stating she needed space. So i did every boneheaded move and didn't give her space, until may. we kept in light contact over that month. this month however things have changed, she is coming to my best friends house a lot more ( her friend too), talks to me when i am there. texts me back mostly when i text her, started talking to my family again. I asked her today about us, she said she doesn't love me anymore and has no feelings toward me what so ever, she said she isn't even at the friendship stage yet and she is only being polite by talking to me. I also told her today that she was beautiful, she blushed and smiled while turning her head toward the ground. how do i get her to want me again? to have feelings of attraction toward me again? To initiate a conversation or text with me first? Please PUA members help me out here.

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    Hey man.

    Let me try and summarise here, this girl said she needed space so she dumped you about 2 months ago.

    Since then you have been in more-or-less constant contact in one way or another. 2 months later you are still trying to get her back and she has told you she doesn't have any feelings for you.

    I'm sorry but what is not to understand here?

    She needs space, give it to her. Actually bro you need space too because right now you are pushing her further and further away. Behaving like a lovesick puppy isn't attractive bro and you are giving her way too much power over you.

    Give her what she wants. Break contact. No contact. If she is at your friend's house, don't go there. Do not text her, e-mail her or call her.

    Man up right now bro or you have no chance of ever getting her back.

    All the best bro.

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    He's exactly right. A couple of things here...
    A) She needs space emotionally
    B) You need space emotionally
    C) Begging or whatever gives her all power. Unattractive to the max!!
    D) Being in contact, even forced contact eases her pain. It will only benefit you if you could keep complete composure and win attraction with other girls. If you have feelings, trust me this is not possible! Even so, the fact she left is an instant dlv to all other girls.

    The things we wish we knew hey...... One thing that works in your favour is the length of time you were together. The longer people are together, yes they can annoy each other etc, but the more they rely on each other. Going straight into no contact for as long as it takes will make her feel loss and it will play and play on her mind unless you contact her. YOU ARE NOT HER CUSHION!! Have value!

    ( And I do mean as long as it takes UNTIL SHE CONTACTS YOU - NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND)

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    Repeat: DO NOT CONTACT HER! You are in for a bad few months but hey, I've had 6 months of panic attacks, no job, no contact. It's just subsiding now. It will take as long as it takes but that's life and its not always fair. Sorry for what you're going through but you are thinking emotionally and not logically. You must find your feet before you can act

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    thanks for the advice, i am in no contact right now have been since the 27th. She has another man now. she still comes around my family to talk about how much she hates me to her very core and saying if i died she would have no feelings what so ever. how much fun she is having and how much happier she is now. So this isn't going to be easy, she still has stuff here, i want to burn it, but the law says i can't. I have other girls i am talking to and i work out everyday ( lost 67lbs in 3 months, yay me). She is pushing me to hate her and I don't want that.

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    She may be unconsciously keeping track of you,whilst chilling with them. whether you moved on etc.your family may give this off without knowing. tread cautiously.don't go and tell your family to reduce communication or leave out details it bad for both.it doesn't matter what she finds out.keep building an interesting life.
    One way of getting in a ryt frame is accepting that you failed because you didn't really pay attention to this area of your life(game) when you could and look forward.

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    One thing I would add to look on the bright side.... I look back and think it's amazing that I allowed myself to be emotionally destroyed by my ex and how much thought I gave her. Just 2 days ago I slept with this girl and met up with her yesterday. She is literally one of the most amazing people I have ever met (No I doubt i'll screw it up lol) but goes to show, there are better people out there and one day you will look back and think it's a good thing she left

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    There is no doubt about where I screwed up at and i have learned from those mistakes. I'm at the point right now, if we become friends great, if we get back together later on down the road awesome. I won't lie and say I don't miss her, cause I do and I still love her. I just need to better myself right now and I working on that. No contact blows though lol. I live in a really small town ( like 2 traffic lights town) so it's really hard not to see her. I am also working on my approach with females and getting more confidence. So when I see her out and she asks me how I am doing or says hey, how should I respond? Ignore her?

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    Don't ignore her! (at the same time dont go out your way to say hi) If your paths cross, greet her cheerfully. Any questions, keep them short and sweet. You want her to have the impression you are not sore, you are happy with your life but dont go into detail because she has no right to know. If you tell a lie, she will probably sense it. A carefree attitude will get her thinking a world of possibilities.

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    Default Re: How to get my ex to have feelings for me again?

    it depends on who initiates the chat.first let her work because well you don't really have any reason to talk to her...if she says hi begin runing game and if not just ask her how she is doing and move on.don't smile too much or demonstrate that you are really interested in talking.


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