I was dating a girl but now we are just friends. My fault. I became her emotional dump and we often see each other, sometimes just the two of us. She initiates conversations on Facebook. But still friendly.
Yesterday she confirmed that she was dating another guy and they are going away again this weekend. There were three of us on this occasion. The other guy was a friend and know nothing of our history. I was getting anxious so I hastily made my good byes and left. Later she sent me a message asking if everything was ok since I left so suddenly. I neither replied nor show that I read the message.
Now, I'm ready to cut ties with her. I cannot accept being relegated to a friend. My first instinct is to simply ignore her and not respond to her message. That is what I would normally do, but I don't trust myself, so I'll do the opposite. I'm considering making a response and make it clear that we can't see each other as friends anymore. I'm not sure about the right thing to say. But maybe I'll write:
'Hi (name). Sorry I left so soon but I couldn't stand to be there any longer after confirming that you are seeing the other guy even though the yogurt was delicious. You have a strong will and it was one of the things I liked about you. Follow your heart as I will follow mine and it should lead us to where we belong. We cannot be friends though as you want it. I will not be your emotional tampon. This is the way it is.'
That's what is going on in my head. It is needy because I can't think of a better one as of now. I just think I should send a message to clearly state my intention, while at the same time play with it as a parting shot.
I have two options. 1) Ignore her, or 2) Send the message above or better-I don't really know what to write.
I think I should simply ignore her and let the absence do it's work. But it seems like running away which may not be good. I always do it anyway and it hasn't done me any good.
What do you think?