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Thread: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    You seem to be failing her shit tests.never take what she does personal!
    Yep you should definitely move on..

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Hahhahaa fucking shit tests, yes HardRock are totally right, i understood what i did wrong, actually a lot about this shit tests. I always felt into it and made mistakes.
    And yes i let her go, as i told i didnt call her but you know what happened ? She called me yesterday, around 19.30, i didnt pick up the phone and i sent her a message which was just a question mark around 22.30 and she called me back. We had a looong conversation around an hour, but it wasnt about his bf or any other stuffs. This time i was running the game, i made her jealous, i made her remind good times we had before etc. I said her that i will meet with my another on weekend ex (which she doesnt like too much), she will come to my city and she will have some time to visit me. And at the end of the conversation not only about my ex, but also about the other girls, she was saying like please dont have sex with her or please dont have sex with the other one. I said why ? and i changed the subject. We laughed a lot and had a great conversation. Btw, her boyfriend was sleeping and she was calling me from a different room.
    Here is the thing, i read a lot about this shit test and i got it and i wont fall it again, never react emotionally to anything, always be the cool guy. But right now, we dont meet and we just call or text to each other (she saved my name as one of her gf on her phone).
    I am thinking not to call her, wait for her to call me or text and write to me (if she doesnt like in a week i can) and when she calls and texts me, i wont pick up on that time and later i will call back (may be wont) and i will be the one who is busy and has to pick off the phone. And when we have this conversation, i wont talk about her bf or bad things, always try to escalate and try to build the attraction by making her jealous or reminding good times to her we had and talk about funny and good things. Do you think this a good way or is there something wrong with that ?

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Right now i feel like i am playing my game and its a good feeling actually. But it would be great if you guys give any other suggestions for the last situation And HardRock thanks for this message advice because it really works

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Great turnaround man!! Let her come to you.

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    remember to stay the same when she comes back to you...you learn this on hard way like i did ...my ex change me completely,i will always act like a man

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    But still i need to do some stuffs guys, i mean she is still not meeting with me, she wants but her bf doesnt want that. And she is looking for a flat for herself right now but she is still with that guy.. I just dont know, i feel like somehow i have to talk with her like every day or every 2 days but i wont call her, i want her to call me but how ? Just need some advises about that.

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    You need to create your own reality with her.
    Don't accept the boyfriend been there frame.How?
    Don't call her too much.
    When you call it should be amplifying the attraction more.

    Do you think this a good way or is there something wrong with that ?
    Too much of this could ruin you sort of.your next goal is to get her to meet.the reason why you feel you got to is because your at a bridge.

    For now don't push it too much.also check the way you ask her out.

    Avoid these:you should come out with me sometime.
    we should go hang and catch up on good times.

    Also don't hint on the gud times in the relation just focus more on move things ahead with her.jealousy is not best for the long term.

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Quote Originally Posted by whocares28 View Post
    But still i need to do some stuffs guys, i mean she is still not meeting with me, she wants but her bf doesnt want that. And she is looking for a flat for herself right now but she is still with that guy.. I just dont know, i feel like somehow i have to talk with her like every day or every 2 days but i wont call her, i want her to call me but how ? Just need some advises about that.
    My guess is not to rush it, but amplify in quality doses when the timing feels right. Sounds like she is moving away from the BF, but make sure you don't become a rebound too quick for her.


    Quote Originally Posted by HardRock View Post
    ...Avoid these:you should come out with me sometime.
    we should go hang and catch up on good times...
    My guess is to make sure you have a plan 'meet me here at X time for X thing [backup plan is X if she says can't make it, if not then Ok maybe next time]' Someone correct me if I'm wrong about this advice, I don't want to give bad advice, had too much of that from AFC people.

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Ok here is what happened today..
    We didnt talk for like 2-3 days, because she knew that my ex girlfriend would be in town and i didnt want to call her when she is here so she can think about it by herself. I called her today, she was going to her home town by train (which takes like 6 hours) and it was like that :
    Me : Hej, how have you been ? Do you know what i called you because i know that you are looking for a flat, and right now i am sitting with two girlfriends of mine, and one of them is also looking for a flat and i can give your number to her so you can meet tomorrow because she is in a rush. What are you doing ?
    She : I am going home right now and i will be there like 1 week. (Which i already know it because she told me that 3 days ago)
    Me : Aaa too bad i forgot that, but may be she can send you the details so you can see the place.
    She : Yes sure, but who are they ? Do i know them ?
    Me : No you dont know them they are my friends. They called me to meet and we were chatting and she mentioned about this and you just came to my mind and wanted to let you know. Anyway i gotta go now and i will call you back in 20 minutes.

    I called her like after an hour and we started to talk. (I made a mistake about it because we talked like 3 hours which i shouldnt do but i didnt notice that it had been 3 hours)
    And generally we talked about everything, i mean i made a plan about the conversation, first i started to talk about her new flat, and then i started to talk about my plans, like i will go to holiday with some friends for 2 days bla bla. And then i gave some information about a new restaurant which i want to open and i said i am asking you because your thoughts are important for me and we talked about her work (she will also start to look for a job, i made some compliments in there, i said how smart she is and she should find a job like that). And then i broke rapport, i mention about her clothes when i saw her and she looked like a teenager in blacks etc. And she asked me about my ex, how was it, and the other girlfriends in my life. I said i dont have anyone special in my life but i have normal girlfriends, actually i have more girlfriends then guys and i told her that i prefer this because i enjoy spending time with girls. And then we started to talk about every other stuffs, like for example i said her that i didnt like my new haircut and she said me that she know a very good one, so we should make an agreement, when she comes back, i will try to find a flat for her and she will make an appointment from her hairdresser for me and her and she will introduce me as her boyfriend.
    And i said something like in a month i will go to my hometown and she told me that she would want to come bla bla.
    The conversation in total was like that. Sometimes we lost the signal but every time she was the one who called me back, i wasnt.
    And after that she started to talk about my character, that i show my emotions to everybody so easy which she doesnt like about me, and i reacted like "I know sometimes when we were together i did that but its not about my character because i am not like that. I know i made some mistakes when we were together but now i am totally someone new. I like meeting new people and react in positive ways. But when i was with you, for 2 months i had some problems with my family and work which i didnt tell you and that made me a little bit aggressive, normally i am like the guy who you met and we ve been for a while, and now i am totally different and someone like awesome, who enjoys every minute of living etc."
    And after that she started to say "Yes you might change but i have a boyfriend right now and he is a good guy". I said "look i already said enough about your bf and i wont involve this anymore but he is not that good that you think, he is a player, this is not something i made up this is what he told to me (actually this guy also interested in PUA and as he told to me he trained some guys, and he told me that he slept around 50 girls which i dont understand because even i slept with that amount before the game in a year ) and when he finds someone else he will break up with you and even if he would be a good guy, you would live together. But i hope you are right and i am wrong, i just want to see you happy thats all. But the other thing that, before this, you should ask me what i want. I mean, do i want you back ? Because i didnt chase any one for 2-3 months and i wont. If someone decided not to be with me and if she says that if i wouldnt have a bf, i would be with you, thanks but thats something which i wont take because i prefer someone who wants to be with me even if she has a bf."
    And those were my last words because her battery dead. So what you guys think about it ?

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    Default Re: Totally f... up and dont know what to do. Please i need help

    Expect shit test along the lines of boyfriend and the man u were to her previously.she may have sensed a change


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