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    Default I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    Hi guys, to cut my story short. Sorry for bad English

    My ex and I was in a relationship for 5 month,she left her home,she find 3 jobs to work,she was depresed and out of control,she couldn't bare it anymore and she broke up with me coz of her situation,and it was on Mart 31.

    I told her that I need space and that I will call her when I have the time,and I told her that I have a job. After a month we start to see eachother again,not every day,it was good to be with in her company again.

    I will jump to her birthday,it was in July. I was on her party,as a friend of course. After that party,she thanked me over phone message,she was very glad that I came. After her birthday we started to see each other almost every day,bit by bit. She call me and text me everyday.

    In august she text me why I'm I so nice to her?
    I told her: "should I be bad to you"?
    She sadi: "omg no,I mean why are you sooooo nice to me? are you like that to all your girlfriends?"
    I said: "I'm nice to everyone,but not everyone deserve to be soooo nice to them,I'm sooo nice to you bcz you are such a nice girl,and I feel very very good when I'm near you,you deserve my niceness "

    I think this is enough for her to know that I like her as a girl and that I have a crush on her. But she didn't talk about this.

    We start to see eachother everyday,she still have one job but she do 2 shift,about 12h a day and after her job in the evening, about 21h she is with me,I come with my car and we drive together for 2 or 3h,we were everywhere, on every event in our city or near cities. We had a good time always. I can tell that we have so much memories from the first time I meet her. Not only 2 of us was everyday together,we were hang with our friends together somethimes.

    On august 22 she asked:
    Her: "Do you like me as a girl?"
    Me: "Yes,I do like you"
    her: "You told me that you like me only as a frined,and that you looked me as a girl wheh we broke up???
    Me: "I didn't look you that way for some time,I recently told you that you are very nice girl,and that I enjoy your company very much.
    Honestly you're too cute. How cute You are from outside you are cutier from inside and I respect that most. I don't flirt with you,i just want to show you that i like you"
    She: "It's weird,one time you look me like that,the other you don't...And how I'm I suppose to percieve that as a conclusion?"
    Me: "the conclusion is that I like You now"
    She: "very nice,like a real man,I like you now,in 2 months no,and like that in circle!"
    Me: "I always like you,You said something before and I said that i like you as a friend,I didn't have the courage to tell you coz i thought you might get mad at me. I wanted to show you that with my behavior in time.
    She: "what was your goal?"
    Me: "you to realise that i like and that I care about you"
    She:"And you don't want nothing from me? Or you are hanging out with me coz You want something to happen on that topic?"
    Me: "I'm hanging with you because I'm soo good with you and I like you"
    She: "You're such a diplomatic person and what if someone else come?"
    Me: "As it cares to me it won't,I really like you and what I like I fight for that"
    She: "There are problems,there are turn over situations,there is something that someone didn't expect?"
    Me: "I'm aware of everything,I just wanted You to know that I like you and that I care about you.."

    She fell asleep after last message and didn't talk about it tomorrow.

    We started again everynight to see eachother.

    She went to another country for weekend and she said to me that it is odd that we will not see each other for 2 days. Immediately when she came back she call me and want to hangout with me.

    Just to add,when we drive I stand next to road and pick some flowers for her in some near house. Sometimes i said to her to kiss me on both cheeks.

    On September 9. when i drove her home, I tell to her to kiss my chin. she smiles and kissed my cheek.

    Tomorrow (yesterday) she text me:
    She: "I think that You with that move showed me that you want something more...you likely miss understand me and our friendship..."
    Me: "I may over react a little bit, and i don't want to force anything,I know your situation very well,but you know that i like you,i thought that you like me too as a guy.."
    She: "there is something else..."
    Me: "what?"
    She: "doesn't matter,don't look at me as a girl"
    Me: "what to do when I like you and I admit it"
    She: "It's my mistake I let that happen"
    Me: "It's not your fault,i thought you have some feelings towards me,that I like you for who I am"
    She:"You are adorable,but when we broke up i told you not to wait me,and you got it all wrong"
    Me: "I don't hide my feeling,forget about our breakup,I like you for who you are,I don't flirt with you to bee with you now,I want you to know that I'm there for you. I look at you as a beautiful girl that I care about"
    She: "What do you think how You gonna look at me when i hurt You?"
    Me: "Can you tell me what is the reason,you not like me?what is it? i need to know that...can u tell me?"
    She: "as i know u more and more I realized that you are more and more wonderful,I don't know hot to explain that to you but I look at you with different eyes and i think if you continue to look at me as a girl we will have only problems,if you understand me...
    Me: "You look me like some wuss or faggot,say like that...Now I know that girls don't like good boys."
    She: "What are you talking about? if u are any different I wouldn't have led my eyes on you,nor I would hang out with you,I would never thought something like that for you...see problems already"
    Me: "I want to tell you look at me like a girlfriend,brother or a lamp...it's not problems it's just i don't know,you didn't tell why you don't like me,then i can only guess i have mistaken somewhere and you don't look at me as a guy"
    She: "You look on that to harshly...you can lose me as a girlfriend today-tomorrow but as a friend never...i feel so bad when we talk like this "
    Me: "I feel bad also,You know that I'm realyyy reallyyy care about you...don't cut your work for me,call me when you done or we can see each other tonight..."
    She: "I have pause right now,at 19h i must go to work...don't get mad at me"
    Me: "I don't get mad at you,and don't you mad at me when i fight for you,I told you I fight for i like..I didn't tell you last night to kiss me on lips,I tell you to kiss me on chin maybe you thought that I want something more because of that"
    She: "You're being on your own again,it's gonna disturb me."
    Me: "should I pretend that I don't care about you and that I don't like you as a girl..i will not over react."
    She: "Are you listen to yourself,with that you will do nothing."

    Later yesterday she called me,I have promised to her that I will drove her to her village,she must take some stuff because she is moving to another place to live...We go there, we didn't talk about earlier messages,but on the way back I told her:
    Me: "please don't send me again messages like that,tell me that in my face"
    She: "I didn't have the courage to tell you that in person..."

    she told me I don't do that to myself,that i holding myself in one place,I can have another girl and bla bla bla...I asked her to answer me does she like me as a guy and in future if a call her on a real date is she gonna say YES. She looked me and said, I can't answer you that question....


    Ok guys, today she called me and we talk something else,just chatting. she will call me again later,maybe we see eachother again tonight...

    She don't have time for boyfriend rightnow nor she want one at the moment.

    I DON'T WANNA GIVE UP ON HER! YES THERE ARE PLENTY FISH IN THE SEA BUT THIS GIRL IS EVERYTHING THEN I EVER WANTED. PLEASE DON'T TELL ME TO GIVE UP ON HER,I KNOW THAT SHE HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME!

    PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO NEXT, I KNOW THAT WE ARE RIGHT FOR EACHOTHER AND SHE IS AFRAID ON LOSE ME TOO! SHE SAID TO ME THAT SHE DON'T WANNA LOSE ME,THAT WE HAVE SO MUCH TOGETHER.

    YEA I KNOW friend zone SUCK,BUT I DON'T WANNA WAIST THIS 6 MONTH

    THANKS!

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    Default Re: I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    Dude... There is not much to say.

    You fudged up. How the hell were you able to stay in contact for over six months and not make a proper move. When she wanted you backed off. But that is ok.

    You should not make yourself too available for her. But talking to her everyday, seeing her all the time, and not making a proper move conveyed the message that you wanted nothing more than being friends.

    The fault is on you. Now you lost it. The only thing you could do now is back the f**k off. She is used to you being all over her all the time.
    Vanish!

    The ideal time is at least 2 to 3 months. In the meantime, do some sh*t with your life besides her. Go to the gym, find a new job, read some inner game material, and most important, F**K OTHER WOMEN.

    Than ask her out, in the daytime, for a coffee, and show how different you are, how happy you are, and how well you are doing in life without her. Don't kiss her, don't act desperate, or she'll see through you. Hold on.

    Meet her again, and in this other meet, ask her out for a drink at night. Make your move there. Back off, say things are going to fast, before she says it, but keep going.

    But dude. One Step at time!

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    Default Re: I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    thaks for your answer

    we were not on daily contact all this 6 months,recently we start seeing eachother daily. I couldn't take my move earlier coz she has no time for boyfriend,she don't want one till she finds normal job and normal time for boyfriend...it's little bit complicated...now I know what I must do,not to ignore her,but to show her that I have other things than her. She will call me again later. I know I will miss her,she told me she don't wanna lose me,she don't wanna this to end.

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    Default Re: I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    Yeah man...

    The real secret is to relax. It took me some time to figure this out. I'm in the journey of getting my ex back as well.
    It's a long and hard journey, but in the long run, it is bennefical.
    I'm way more fit, I've quit my dead end job, enrolled a University for a master degree, f**ked two very hot girls, and I'm studying the venusian arts all over again.
    It is really hard to control our emotions, but if it wasn't her, I would still be stuck in my miserable life. I have nothing but to thank her.

    That is the atitude you should have. Women perceive this kind of stuff. Play it cool, and play it close. As I've said it is a long journey, and there is no guarantee.

    She dumped me July 7, this last wednesday, September 11, I went to a coffee meeting with her for the first time in two months. The two longest, hardest and life changing months of my life. It went great. Because real changes happened.

    And please man, beware of two things. There's this feeling you said, but if you keep hanging onto this assuming she'll stay there forever for you, you better think twice. These feelings, can become feelings of pity, which you don't want, 'cause thats really hard to come back from.

    And PLEASE, PLEASEEEE. Do not believe this truckload of sh*t she's telling you about not having time for dating, because of her job and other stuff.

    Please man. I know you don't know me. But believe me when I say.
    THIS IS ALL A BUNCH OF F**KING LIES. When you love someone, you find time, because you want to be with that person all the time!

    I would not waste my time typing all of this for nothing. I'm telling you this because I don't want to see you worst than you are now.

    As I said, play it close to yourself. Ignore her. If she calls you, be brief. You are busy. You have other sh*t to do. Give yourself two months. Then, and only then, you engage contact with her again.

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    Default Re: I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    yea man,i will do that

    she said that i'm cute with any clothes on me,that I'm perfect in any way...i asked her do you like me? what is the problem then, i need to know that? I asked if I call you on a real date someday,would you go out with me? She couldn't answer to any of my questions...
    I MEAN WTF DOES SHE WANT THEN!

    I'm really fit,training everyday,I also train some martial arts,I don't smoke,don't drink,I'm not boring dude...she knows that some other girls (she knows them) was and are interested in me...

    So I'm not available any more for her, I can change. I will try in future to ask her to do way more things for me then I will do for her.

    OK...so now,I know she will call or text something like this - "I knew you would be mad at me " You don't wanna hang out with me anymore,I miss hangout with you".
    What should I reply in this case?

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    Default Re: I have been in contact with my ex for 6 months

    Hey,she contacted me this morning. She said: "What are you doing?"
    I replied after one hour and half...
    I saw her last night randomly at the city,she said hello,we spoke a little bit,everything went fine...

    I dunno man,she knows that I like her...I will not contact her first in near future...
    Should I reply to her text,or let her wonder?

    I gave her about 15days a go my USB flash drive and mobile charger,she didn't return it yet. Also she had some pictures with me and her and she said to give it to me.

    If i go on NC she will sense that I'm mad at her,and If I don't reply for two month...dunno what's gonna happen

    Any suggestions please


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