This was a girl I was with for six years and was going to marry. I completely became the most pathetic AFC I have ever been in my life and kept giving mixed signals that I was okay with it and then needed her back...going in and out of NC. Here is the story, its BAD.
The breakup happened when we got in a fight and argument. At this point I still had power in the relationship and I told her to leave and never come back! She left and gathered her stuff the next day. I came home and her stuff was all gone. I dumped her then realized very quickly that I had made a mistake. So I called her many times and she told me that she was moving on. I apologized so many times begged her to come back, and even told her I found god, She said she was only willing to be friends via text. I was stupid and told her I loved her and missed her. We had a few friendly text messages on several occasions for the first few weeks, but she gradually grew colder and colder to me. And she said she was moving on that she was re-starting her life without me and hoped I would do the same and that someone would come along and make me happy. She said to leave her alone and to give her space. I was miserable at the time and (even bought her a engagement ring, so stupid!!!) and only gave her 3 weeks and re-texted her that I missed her, to which she replied with. IT IS OVER, DO NOT TEXT OR CALL ME AGAIN! This was by far the worst rejection I ever felt and felt like my heart was going to explode and have heart attack!
Fast forward by about four five weeks without any contact. I was feeling slightly better. She was still on the rent agreement even though she had moved out and our apt gave us a courtesy call about the rent being due that day. I had my phone in my truck at the time so she called me at work irritated that it wasn’t paid. I was actually surprised to hear from her and told her I was sorry and that I would drop it in the box and she has nothing to be worried about. I also told her she would be off the lease agreement and signed the form to do so.
I checked the mail in a few days and realized that she still had a lot of mail because I hadn’t check it in a while. I left her a voice mail message telling asking if she wanted the mail because some of the packages seemed important. She said our relationship was over and she didn’t want any kind of relationship, friendship or otherwise and to throw the mail away. At this point I was so damn tired of her rejecting me over and over again and told her that I had accepted the break-up and would NOT just take her back. I also did another stupid thing and told her I bought the damn ring for her because I had earlier intended to marry her and the texted her a picture. She said that I never had any intention of marrying her before and I blamed her for all the problems. She said She is talking to a new guy and refuses to let me ruin a good thing and to LEAVE HER ALONE NOW!
I drove out to the lake and damn near threw the ring in the lake and told her I was doing so. At this point I actually felt pretty good about it but I know I was acting out of emotion rather than being calm and collected. I have no idea how I became like this. This has to be quite possibly the worst ways to screw ups ever. It’s pathetic but I still would take her back. Is there any freaking way to get her back after all this?!!