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Thread: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

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    Default Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    So i've posted here before about an ex-gf issue and moved on. However this time its my Ex Wife of 17 yrs contacting me. We split up 3 yrs ago, remained friendly, but usually don't initiate contact when either of us is in a relationship. She has a guy, she told me kinda serious, and i have never really cared about it, who she is with, asked her anything, etc... She is still smoking hot, HB10+, one of the best looking women i have ever seen...we just grew apart and ended it.

    So she starts texting me this weekend asking odd questions about our dogs and then calls me tonight, proceeds to talk for 2 hrs, and saying that she wants to stop by and see me. I ended the long convo, saying text me later. I'm interested in playing this out and see where it goes for experience, a f close, or who knows. Any tips here?

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    Sounds like you could have f closed her if you let her invite herself over. Am I missing something ?

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    in my opinion, your actions should be determined based on:
    1. what you actually want out of this. You said you've moved on and don't really know what her goal is, but that shouldn't be the only consideration. what do -you- really want? ego boost? f close? second chance for relationship?

    2. the frame you've created and displayed to her over the last years (since yall have been separated)

    for example, if you've created a basic "game mentality" frame for her, treat her as if shes a person you just met and put your game face on.

    if you've created an "emotional friend who really understands me" with her, then you need to play up the "we really understand each other were soulmates" type attitude

    or if you've kept it aloof and made her realize what shes lost, display all of it and bombard her with how awesome you are.

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    Invite her over.be safe!!dont allow be yourself be attached to the outcome.

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    I have txt from her first thing this morning...its about a common friend's family death...and we send a few back and forth. I have 2 other dates this week so i'm not really in a hurry, will see how it plays out.

    Related, I'm finally seeing response to my game, talking up more girls lately than ever, no longer afraid to approach (regardless of their age)...getting numbers, dates and fooling around. My mentality has shifted from worrying to seeing each opportunity as a fun challenge, seeing what their reaction is, what works and what doesn't. Practice really does hone your skills and its much easier to not care once you have a few fallbacks.

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    Great work improving your skills!

    If she wants to meet, I'd recommend meeting soon. Girls can lose interest just as quickly as they get it.

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    Default Re: Ex Initiated Contact - What does she really want?

    Once you perceive the shots push things ahead may move in..


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