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    Hey guys been a while since i was on, i was dating this girl for a few months and things were going ok but she wouldnt commit to anything and still wanted to do her own thing so we decided to stop seeing each other.
    Our social circles have kind of come together so even though we are not dating we still see each other on a semi regular basis.
    I still have very strong feelings for her and want to win her back. I want to do the no contact approach initially, but my main question is if i ignore her texts etc, and we meet in person (either planned or not) she is going to ask me why i havent returned her messages so how do i respond?

    Tyia, apologies for grammar typing this out on my phone

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    Default Re: dealing with no contact when in person

    Don't sweat it, and don't force the issue especially if she's professed what she does and does not want. You obviously dont want to move on so instead broaden your horizons and open up your options. I understand the desire to want to continue on with her but constant effort on your part with someone who's expressed lil interest may prove to be painful and drive you down the road to needyness, which is a bad look bro. Hope this helps.
    You can't miss something you've never had, but I can be sure she will regret her opportunity...

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    Default Re: dealing with no contact when in person

    Depends on what shes been texting though.you may go ahead whilst you have a shot

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    Default Re: dealing with no contact when in person

    Thanks guys, yeah I was getting needy which is why i've took a step back overall over the last few weeks, I just hope it's not too late. But I definitely think I need to do other things in the mean time so i'm not constantly focused on her.

    Coincidentally she has text me today (last time we spoke was on 30th), we did see each other on saturday and had like a quick chat for like 2minutes but thats it. She said "hey stranger x".

    Now ideally I want to do the no contact thing but its very likely that our social circles will meet the weekend, so what do you guys think? ignore the message or just make some light conversation or something.

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    Default Re: dealing with no contact when in person

    Engage her more.'just saw ur text, wnt believe what happened today'.charge content more from here on

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    Default Re: dealing with no contact when in person

    Hey guys, didnt get back to this thread because we had no contact with each other that was until the 21st december where we saw each other at the pub with our mutual group of friends
    I just asked how she was doing, work etc but it was kinda awkward so just broke it off and talked to other people instead.
    I thought nothing of it and just assumed we would probably never talk again but then on the 29th she messaged me saying hello stranger x
    Shes done this before, i wasnt going to ignore her so was just polite in replying and tried not to invest anything in the conversation.
    She asked how i was, what i was up to etc so because she isnt one to lead a conversation i thought this was interesting. I varied my time in replying and didnt send anything to long.
    After a few messages back and forth i invested some time and replied to her question of "what are my plans for nye/my birthday?"... i replied "[plans], i saw X today totally reminded me of you"
    After i send this i saw she read it 2 hours later but hasnt replied.

    Emotionally im not investing anything into this because of whats happened in the past but id like to know what the hell shes thinking. Because imo it feels like she just testing me to see if im still into her...

    What do you guys think? Apologies for spelling/grammar wrote this on my phone


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