Okay, I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible, so if I don't give enough detail please let me know. So me and my ex were together for 10 months (f-closed on the first date) and broke up back in September. I broke up with her because I'd get pissed when she'd talk to other guys and this argument she didn't really fight for me to not leave her. Hours later I apologized and asked to get back together and she did the "lets just be friends" crap, which I refused. I tried going no contact but this was the week of my senior homecoming and I was OBSESSED with her going with me (since I had an ex stand me up at my freshman homecoming) so when she would ask if we were going and when I'd reply.
The reason this is significant is because over the summer she dumped me saying she just sees me as a friend and I went NC (none whatsoever) for only a day and she pretty much begged me to come back. She would try to bait me into replying by telling me shes had sex with another guy and making negative statuses about me to get me to say something back. I continued to ignore her, until she texted me to please answer and she pretty much begged me to go see her and on my way I got flowers I kept hidden until she hugged me and then all of a sudden she was like "I do love you more than anything, blah blah blah".
Anyway, she started doing stuff like this again, but because I wanted her to go with me so bad, I'd just reply and say I've been busy and yes we're still going. I'm bringing all this up because I've realised if I'd just ignored her and forgot about the dance she would have begged for me back again. But now to the point, after we went she was cold and detached the whole time and said we're still just friends. She'd still tell me she loved me and all that jazz but I knew she didn't want to be with me so I tried NC after this, but she called me one night, talked things out and set up a date. The day prior to this date she went and had sex with her ex, after which I freaked out and went to her house, got my stuff and said we were never getting back together. Well after that her and him started dating and I went NC for 2 months and tried to break it by asking how her little cousin was doing, after which she blocked me without replying. This dumbfounded me because when she was with me she'd still come up with excuses to talk to her ex before me (not this same guy) until I threatened to leave her one day.
Anyway, I'm considering trying to get back with her in the future. The future because I want to have a bunch of experiences with other women and have a chance of possibly finding someone else in the mean time. I'd like some feedback and advice about how I'm planning on going about this. I have two scenarios in my mind, both involve using one of my friends who live in her town to go to a party shes at:
1. Talk to other girls and dance and things to get her jealous and looking at me (possibly have a conversation) and then having her boyfriend (whos cross eyed) look at me and ask him what hes looking at and if he starts getting belligerent either make him back down (make him look like a wuss) or beat his ass (both have the same effect in my mind).
2. Go to the party, have general fun and mingle like I normally do at parties (don't try to make her jealous, but still talk to women I find attractive) and try to start a friendly conversation with her and use BF destroyer when the time is right (as long as the dude doesn't come start any drama) and get her to give me her new number and work my way from there.
I'm leaning with option 2, because it uses the least extremes and number 1 I only think of when I get pissed off and could just result in me getting kicked out and lose all chances. I'd love to hear some more opinions.