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Thread: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

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    Exclamation Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    My girlfriend of over two years says she needs time to figure out if she still wants to be in a relationship with me. The past two weeks have been rocky and I've suggested that a lot of the negative energy is the reason for her feeling this way, Since she says that I haven't been doing anything wrong, I have been a little AFC(clingy,needy,etc ). She claims she doesn't know why she feels this way. She said to me she wants things to be like how they used to be, exciting, genuinely happy. She said she doesn't really feel excited anymore and she is unsure of what she wants. I suggested I take time away and give her space but she was very sure she didn't want space but to be with me and spend time with me. She said she just needed time to figure it out.

    I don't understand what to do? She doesn't want space but needs time. How do I approach this? She said she really loves me and I'm her best friend. She said she doesn't care about anyone like she does the way she cares for me. She says this is something but I could be right about the negative energy going on causing this. The two weeks have been rough and I think it's causing this. She said it could maybe be that, but she wants to be sure. I have no clue on what to do.

    Can anyone help please?
    It's a pretty tough situation she wants to still hangout so I don't know how I would do NC.. Especially since we are still dating and she's going on and on about how she really loves me and wants me in her life. She said she needs to figure it out on her own and I just replied "I know you do." She'll be over in the morning to stay at my place for the day, no idea what to do..

    Anyone any tips?

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    Default Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    She wants excitement. You two will be together all day. Do something exciting. Couple weeks ago a friend and I took a "water vibrations meditation class" just because it was so off the wall out of my element and I couldn't pass up trying something new and totally different. Do the same thing. Go to a crazy art museum. Some neat hole in the wall food joint that serves different things. Reignite that spark and make the day memorable.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    I can't man today I told her to leave me alone. She's playing games with me and trying to suck up all the power and tell me what to do. We ended up talking and she said she doesn't want to be together but we should both take time to think about what we really want (so she can be single and do whatever she wants) I said no thank you I'm done with all of this and she started to cry and said bye and I hung up the phone. I was sick of her bossing me around. No more beta shit. If she wants me she better come crawling back. I'm moving on with this. I also won't be replying to her until she is begging. Cause this is unfair to me. On to the next one since this one doesn't give a crap.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    Quote Originally Posted by JustStartingOut View Post
    I can't man today I told her to leave me alone. She's playing games with me and trying to suck up all the power and tell me what to do. We ended up talking and she said she doesn't want to be together but we should both take time to think about what we really want (so she can be single and do whatever she wants) I said no thank you I'm done with all of this and she started to cry and said bye and I hung up the phone. I was sick of her bossing me around. No more beta shit. If she wants me she better come crawling back. I'm moving on with this. I also won't be replying to her until she is begging. Cause this is unfair to me. On to the next one since this one doesn't give a crap.
    There u go! Do you man. Once you do you, she will come crawling back. They always do.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    Yeah I found out she messaged my best friend asking if we talked and they said no and she was saying how she thought i would call her back but I never did. She went on about how she doesn't know what to do without me to my best friend. So stupid if she feels that way why didn't she say anything on the phone. To me that's not good enough.

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    Cool Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    Quote Originally Posted by JustStartingOut View Post
    Yeah I found out she messaged my best friend asking if we talked and they said no and she was saying how she thought i would call her back but I never did. She went on about how she doesn't know what to do without me to my best friend. So stupid if she feels that way why didn't she say anything on the phone. To me that's not good enough.

    After a while relationships can go stale. We take things for granted and we dont usually know what we have till its gone. This is something BOTH parties in a relationship can contribute too.

    What she wants is the spark that ignited the relationship! The fun , the excitement. What were you guys doing back then?

    So instead of pissing and moaning...... search google...... "Fun Dates in NC or wherever you live. (I just did this and got a load of amazing ideas)

    Think of off the wall fun places to go for food or for shows. Like a comedy show. Or out w friends to a night club for drinks. Board game nights w friends. Find local outdoor fairs.

    Take a drive to somewhere far away and get out of your area...... rent a room and hang out somewhere else for a change and feel all kinds of newness to both you and her!

    Have amazing sex in different and new places. Change your apartment around and make things different. What can you do to improve yourself??? The gym? Eating less? Losing weight? All this stuff contributes to being and feeling confident, which will get her into you all over again and no more bitching!

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    Default Re: Girlfriend is being "unsure" of us? *she'll be here in the morning*

    Or hit the roller rink for some skating, or a laser tag place, or bouncy castle place …. Just be fun and try different things
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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